Lessons Women Can Learn from Men About How to be Happier

Let's get right down to business here. Men are simple, simple creatures. Their memory sucks, their attention span is limited to ESPN and it's easier for them to pee outside. (Yeah, I got to throw that in. Doesn't it make you mad?!)

Well, we can pee outside too, but it's definitely not as easy. However, there are some other things that we can form as habits even though they go against our nature. For starters, we are natural worriers.

You have to be able to recognize what you can change and what you can't. If you can change it, stop crying over it and change it. If you can't, stop crying over it and adapt. No wonder women are more prone to suffer depression!

Money problems... how often does that bring you down?It brings me down all the time. I've had money problems my whole life, and I always will. But through time, I have learned that letting it bother me is just a waste of time.

Life is going to happen, and there are some things like money that will always seem like an ongoing obstacle. You can never have enough. You can work overtime all week and still be behind on your bills. No matter how much fight you put into it, you can still come out on the losing end. Money is a strong example... because it is the one thing that everyone worries the most about.

Don't let it destroy you. Maybe this is the hardest example to imagine, because money problems are one thing that can even break down a strong man. So let's try a smaller example. You're running late from work. You know you're gonna catch hell from your boss, you didn't even have time for coffee so you're gonna be miserable anyways and before it's even started you know your day is going to be a very long, bad day.

Stop right there. Yes, you'll be late. Yes, you're boss will probably give you a hard time. In the worst case scenario, you may even be risking losing your job. All of those things are stressful. But don't let it break you down and ruin your day. The bottom line is what is more important to you? You can get another job, but you can't get that day back. That may be just one day out of your life, but if this is the way we handle our outlook then chances are it is more than one day we are wasting.

This is where depression comes from, ya know? Men are less likely to get depression because they are less likely to let one bad thing, like being late, ruin their whole day. When you think about it, our life is just a lot of days. We have no choice but to live those days one at a time.

Sometimes we try to handle more than one day at a time. Yesterday's over and tommorrow is later on. Today is today and if you mess it up you can't go back and change it. Let those little things go. Stop worrying about everything!

Sorry to start out so deep there. I had to jump right into the worrying thing because if you only read one thing out of this whole article, I want it to be that women worry, and men don't. Men are happier, so you do the math.

Another thing we can learn from men is the need to be alone. Women tend to prefer company, constantly. We get lonely, or bored, if left alone for too long. If this fits, you're looking at being alone negatively. Enjoy that time with yourself! Get to know yourself! Try out new things. You might find you like drawing, or crocheting, or playing with play dough under a black light while listening to Pink Floyd's "The Wall" after smoking a joint.

My point is to check things out. Don't sit around thinking of somebody to call... keep yourself entertained. Don't be afraid to crack open a beer or pour yourself a glass of wine, even if it's just you. Alone time is when you can really get into touch with yourself and your emotions.

Another thing, for all you women reading this article, you may have a hard time communicating with the man in your life if he is trying to get some alone time and you are trying to get him to spend time with you. Note the "need" in this particular behavior we can learn from men. Aside from the pushing and pulling that seems to be a very common miscommunication between men and women in relationships, we can better understand their need and not take it so personally if we too want some time to ourselves.

Alone time allows you to pull yourself together and be a much more interesting, fun person when you are with others.

At this point in this article, I have ran into a rut. I think in those two things I have covered all the things men do that women should try. So I made myself a sandwich and I ask my husband for his opinion. I word it carefully and explain what I have already offered.

I am still expecting a reply of a sexual nature the moment I say "what habits should women learn that men do?" Surprisingly, he gives me none. Dissapointingly he agrees that the two I have already described just about cover it. (Then he reminds me that this is why he loves me, because I am always learning how men think and act and using it.)

I return to the computer and my dear husband adds one thing for me. "It would be nice if they knew how to change their oil once in a while." So I have to include this, because I would be rude to ask his advice and not use it.

How To Change Your Own Oil

(According to my husbands directions-rephrased in my words:) Pull the oil drain plug thingy, take out the old filter and put the new filter in, put the drain plug thingy back in. (Yeah, sounds easy right?)

(According to me :) Take 20 bucks, bring the whole vehicle in to the shop for an oil change.

Well, I feel smarter already. I do have one more thing to add, because I am always telling all my girl friends this. If you only learn one thing from a man it's the sense of humor. Not the rude, offensive jokes (though some of them are funny too) but the "who cares" attitude.

Would you believe that some women will actually get mad and have another day ruined if they tripped and fell? Not only that, but they'll get mad at the man in their life for laughing at them! Even if you're not that bad, men have a better sense of humor than most women. No matter what is going on in your life, wether it is something small and stupid or something big and stressful it is very, very, very important you find a way to laugh about it!

Women take everything way too seriously, and sometimes even get annoyed that men don't seem to take anything seriously at all. There's a reason for that. It's a waste of time to worry about it the way women do, and life is much better if you laugh as much as possible. Especially when it comes to things that you're more inclined to take seriously.

Try it, you'll see...