Let Love Blossom

I heard a story about an unlikely happily married couple. They were practically complete opposites. One liked tomatoes, one didn't. One was sloppy, one was clean. Etc. Yet their faith in God kept them together for many, many years. It was their faith and love of God that kept them humble and stayed together despite their differences.

I think they also had encouragement from society at the time they were getting married. At the time, people just got married and stayed married, for better or for worse. But that doesn't mean you can't blossom in the loving marriage between two believers.

One of the main reasons marriage feels so unrewarding is the current disdain in the media for loving marriages. The media is full of dysfunctional families. The writers have no faith to speak of, they have big egos and will do anything to be recognized. Including pandering to the lowest common denominator.

Our society is losing the culture war because so many people have no moral compass. They see nothing wrong in having flings, getting high, and being stupid. They don't have loving parents telling them to be good. They certainly don't have God. God gives us strength to fight the good fight. To stand strong for family and faith and what right. The Bible says to honor our societies rules. To give Cesar what is Cesar's It doesn't say, to teach young children to live a life of lust and sin and hedonism. Yet that is what they are being taught in school.

And our leaders certainly haven't been too swift either. They get caught in Prostitution stings. Or don't inhale. Or don't have sex with that woman. And its ok because its just sex. What kind of legacy are we leaving our children when the divorce rate is about fifty percent. That means half the people are coming from broken homes.

There's no moral compass. No sense of right and wrong. No hate of sin. If people just did their best to be moral and pure and humble, their spouse wouldn't have to worry if they were cheating. But today's emphasis on men being sexual beings rather than spiritual leaders is really doing them a disservice. A man seeks honor and glory. He will lay down his life for love.

If a man feels more like a man for swearing and drinking and getting laid. He will do so. If he feels honored and respected for being a spiritual leader to his family and laying down gratification for respect, he will be a good husband. One cannot go long without feeling they are valued, and a man needs to feel respected to feel valued.

Don't take a man's sense of honor for granted or he will return the favor and act disrespectful and lewd. If you don't treat men with respect and honor you will teach them to act like a jack ass and not have any values.

A man wants to be paid attention to. He looks at porn to be looked at with love and attention. He feels ignored and berated in real life so he turns to a fantasy of lust and sin and pleasure to feel good. He has given up on ever truly being special. He loses the will to fight for the one he loves because its so easy to find gratification in sexy pictures.

I knew a man who was successful, a leader, and yet liked to drink. Almost to the point where it became a nervous reaction. It was socially acceptable in that crowd to drink. Yet his family had a history of drinking too much. I was concerned for him. I told him he really needed to relax and told him about my grandfather drinking to the detriment to his health. I explained that I found relaxation in meditation. And he seems to have taken it to heart and now he doesn't drink to excess at the functions I see him at. I told him that people knew him in a good way and I was glad for him. I didn't envy his success. He seems much more relaxed now. And I am happy for him.

Life has a way of bringing people into your life that you can either help or hurt. I used to be much more critical and gossipy. But I have learned to focus on the beam in my eye rather than criticize incessantly. I know that people are usually more sensitive than the persona they portray. And despite the hard attitude is someone looking for acceptance.

I have been able to focus on my desire of a great relationship rather than tearing people apart. We are all imperfect and we need to find someone we want to love, not change. I know that I am in need of a love in my life. Deep in my soul I have a hole in my heart. But Jesus loves me, and I have had a full life. And I can't focus on the few negatives in my life when there has been so much beauty and love.

If you are single, don't focus on that, focus on being the best person you can be. And love will find a way. There are many successful fulfilled Christians who are single. You aren't alone. But don't be afraid to love. Your faith is a great first step.