Let a Man Have a Paternity Test if That is His Wish
Paternity Test...No Disrespect
Asking for a paternity test is not an unreasonable or unfair request. Paternity fraud is a growing epidemic throughout the world. A father can be a better father by confirming he is the (non-excluded) biological father. Having the thought or wonderment of "is this child mine" creates an unhealthy relationship for the father and child. With that thought and wonderment the father will usually drawback and not fully accept the role or responsibility of fatherhood. This is not an excuse and there is no reason for a father or "said" father to react in such a manner, without first getting confirmation of his paternity.
In my opinion it is the man responsibility and duty to secure his uncertainty by taking a paternity test with his child. The father should take the first step in confirming his paternity. If a man does not decide to move forward with confirming his paternity, then that man should take full responsibility for their child, without any drawbacks, regrets, or concerns. The man has lost his right to wonder about his paternity if he has not taken the needed measures to confirm his paternity. Though, in many countries the mother must give consent to have the child undergo paternity testing. If this is the case then the man should get the consent from the child mother and if refused then the man should get consent from the courts.
The best thing a woman can do is allow a man to get a paternity test. If a woman has nothing to hide or no other expectations then it should not affect the woman. Many times women are aggressively opposed to a man wanting a paternity test, this looks suspicious and shady to most men. This type of opposition makes the "said" father weary and drawback even more. Even if the father doesn't show physical signs of drawbacks usually there are mental and emotional drawbacks proceeding.
The fact is that women should not feel threatened or disrespected when a man ask for a paternity test, most of the time it helps a man become a better father. The man usually takes a paternity test to suppress his thoughts. Confirming the paternity can also soothe and satisfy his sub-conscious, because sub-consciously a man is affected when not confirming paternity and this is where most of the drawbacks are born. Paternity testing is the wrong direction but the right approach, it's the obvious world we live in.
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Post a CommentJoel, don't be a fool. Get a lawyer TODAY.
Sue to get a paternity test, if it is your child than sue for custody (unless you are willing to leave your own children with a foster father who beats his wife and threatens her boyfriend.
The fact both of you thought "I am the father" indicates that she was having sex with both of you, without protection. Get tested for AIDs and other STDs, early detection is very valueable in saving your life...
Just, stop being so passive, sue sue sue... and for god's sake, be more selective about who you stick it into in the future.
ok, I am just wondering, why do the mothers get so offended when it comes to taking a paternity test? To me it just seems like when you say you do not want one there is obviously something your hiding. If it were me I would want to show everyone that I know who my babies father is. I can understand that it is upsetting. But to not do it at all??
He may be reliable for child support if he waits too long. If the child is let's say seven years old at the time he decides to get a DNA test, then the courts will most likely consider him the declaring father and he must accept fatherhood responsibilities including paying for child support, because he has assumed this role for seven years already. The courts cares less about how it will affect the adults and more about how it will affect the child, therefore they want to do what is in the child's best interest and that is making your son the father if he has already assumed responsibility for the past seven years. Every state is different so it will depend on the local law.
I doubt they will ever make DNA testing a requirement by law because the revenue generated by DNA testing is too great. Unless somehow they can associate a cost for everyone who is required to DNA test (even those without health insurance). If it is required by law they cannot simply make a broke person pay
it is not rude you have a much of women out there that lies i think dna test should be a law why should men get stuck paying child support if it is not there my husband try to say that one of our kids was not his i wish he would of done a dna test now one of my son is suppose to be having a baby and i am not sure it is his and he is talking about signing birth cer. will he be reliably for child support he later on does a dna test
UMPH UMPH now were have I herd that b4 oh yea my babymama GUILTY!The truth is real simple the gov needs to pass a law every babie tested period that would nip al this adultry in the bud!Who cares what you feel. feeling is what got you pregnant in the first place.My love for kids and women has been ruiened because of this topic.Im on here now because Im looking for away out?Briefly the 1st 1 was mine wouldent let me sign the birth certific 2nd one not mine let me sign that 1's daughter mine dont hve my name,boy not mine is my JR welcome to my hell!I been there as much as you can dealing with some one of this charter but enough is enough ...USMC retired...
my son was told that he is the father and for 3 years he was willing to do the right thing however he wants to have a paternity test and the mother refuses and then told him that the child is not his.what should he do.I dont think that he should believe her since she lied to him before. He needs to know for his owm peace of mind and us also. we dont want a child from our family to be left without a father if he is the father.
WHAT IF A WOMAN TELLS YOU FOR THREE YEARS THE BABY BELONGS TO YOU WHILE YOU'RE IN PRISON AND YOUR FAMILY SUPPORT THIS CHILD AND WHEN YOU COME HOME FROM PRISON YOU LOOKS AT THE CHILD AND SEES NO LOOK A ALIKE AND YOU ASK FOR A DNA WHEN THE TEST COMES BACK ITS NOT YOURS.
Sorry, if you are a woman of good character, you have nothing to worry about when a paternity test is done. Indeed, when the child is proven to be the man's who demanded paterntiy test, then that man would be extra obligated to you and extra respectful to you for the strength of your old fashioned good character. But asking a man to trust a woman based on her past show, is not acceptable. Many cunning and shameless women are good at acting too. And many a man is too trusting and gullible too.
If a man wants a paternity test, he should get it. That is his right. Just as paying child support for his biological children is his obligation.
Any other argument against paternity testing is a veiled attempt at protecting the adulterous w(*&^!s.
well i am in this situation. i was with a woman who had a child by another man. a family member died and she supposivly slept with her ex and became pregnant. my gut tells me its my child but i have been denied. she even mentioned a paternity test and then lied about it for several months. i have seen the child and some of the features look like me. she cried when i told her i can get the courts involved and said it would disrupt her children. i just want to know the truth and thats it, if she does not want her family or anyone else to know then fine. but i am suffering because i have to know and i think about it all the time. some guys(like me) would be glad to help out with the child if needed or have wanted kids. so basically i drive myself crazy to find the truth. i think a man has just as much rights as a woman for a test.
I have a situation, I started dating this girl who already had a 3 year old from someone else. I really did love this girl but it seemed that all the problems we were having were because of the ex. We got along fine but just those incidents when the ex would pick up the kid and then would start acting violent and threathening towards me and her. Well she got pregnant and I have a strong feeling Im the father but the ex also claims hes the father. we broke up 3 months ago and I tried contacting her and tried to work things out but I guess shes back with the ex. The baby is almost due, in about a month, Now she tells her friends that shes not going to let me see the kid and shes not going to let me take a paternity test but she still says the baby is mine. So now the other guy is acting like hes going to be the father. I just want to know what can i do? and I really dont want no one to take my baby away from me. I want to be a part in that kids life if its mine. I'm 21 years old and Im g