Let Us Hang in There Together

"Hang in there, baby." What precious words coming from the one we love!

But not as much as, "let us hang in there together" or "let us find a way to make everything work out."

There is much impact in our hearts when we hear these lines. When there is the word "together" or "us" or "we"; especially words that spells forever and no matter what happens nothing will separate us. All of these words can calm a storm and bring tranquility to an angry sea like feelings of doubt dissipating into thin air.

Words

More than once, I have thought about why couples seem to be disconnected or why do they feel apart even if they are hugging each other close. Then I realized that it has something to do with words.

Men and women cannot seem to articulate their thoughts very well. The gifted few are the ones who seem to have the most successful relationships. They get angry, they fight and they throw hurtful words to each other and yet they stay close. They also exchange sweet nothings and words of forgiveness often. Most of all, they do not give up on each other. When there is a need to be silent or be away for awhile, there is the assurance of coming back and waiting.

Sometimes successful couples seem to have the gift of reading minds as well as understanding feelings. They know when to let go at least for a moment and they also know when to insist in being super close giving encouragement as well as strength to keep the other going.

Actions

With all honesty, actions that hurt seems trivial especially when your partner cares enough to explain. The insistence of being happy to live each others lifetime intertwined forever is what everyone wants to hear.

In spite of that, we seldom believe it. Too many people no longer gives out promises because most of the time they only end up breaking it.

There does not seem to be enough assurance for a relationship to last forever because partners do not seem to be as honest as they should be. When was the last time you hear the words, "Let us find a way to be happy together no matter what others say?" or "If it is not you nobody else will do."

Not as often as the previous century, is it not?

Well, we show we care through constant communication; in ancient times we have the letters (a labor of love) and in modern times we have the telephones, mobile phones and other gadgets. The extra mile of bringing a few flowers or something to show affection. Remembering birthdays or anniversaries. The gentle caress you feel when you hold hands. The extra long hugs you get every now and then. The warmth of just being with each others' company.

We often seek the magic words that can scare away the creeping fear of being rejected for some reason. And most of the time we do not hear it. We must be contented with these little seemingly insignificant demonstrations of love.

For even if we seldom hear the words that can lit a fire in our hearts and feel the butterflies in our stomachs, we still continue to love. Love is everlasting and it is a decision.

In fact, loving is one action that speaks everything unless it is utterly misunderstood. Or unless it is done for some underlying motives. As pure as love is when it is tainted with manipulation or just plain deceit; it boils down to nothing.

Faith

There might be no gold standard on how to determine the loyalty of the heart when you have decided to love someone but there is the chance of being gifted with your ideal companion.

The promise of the Bible is clear: Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you. Keep believing because no matter what life we have now, we can always find a way to be happy. Do not give up on love because it is the greatest.