LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX BABY....SEX-SEX-SEX-SEX BABY Article 2

Since my web blog site went on line that I have re titled along with the book and curriculum, "Sex Secrets About Women....Rules for Men", I have had very deep & open discussions with a number of therapists from all over the realm of psychology, sociology, etc. Therapists, social workers, and counselors of all kinds have communicated with me about my theories with respect to the sexual relationship matters between the genders that can create much joy but often can cause great pain.

Initially, most people are cautiously curious about my theories because of the methods I use to get men to pay attention. Namely, I teach men how to improve their prospects of having sex with women as a part of an overall curriculum that teaches men how to treat women.

Generally speaking, most of the people who use psychology as a part of their careers agree that unless there is something contained in the information imparted to men that they are keenly interested in (such as sex) most men would tend to simply ignore the main reasoning behind the theories. In fact, they would likely not allow the therapeutic aspects of the information to even enter their minds. This might come as a shock to some people but not to the people who council men.

So right here let me share with you a little secret about men that you might not know or understand just yet: Men are driven by their sense of honor as much or more so than their sex drive. In fact we are slaves to it. And honor is the main conduit to reach a man's emotions. (I will expound on this aspect of my theories another time.) However,

I also need to share right now, for the men who read and accept my council, I am "Down for YOU"! I say that because some of what I write about might seem like I'm criticizing men. And it may seem that way until men see that what I share with them about women and their selves, if applied appropriately works to create for their selves a better love life and over all relations with women.

Meanwhile, men's sense of honor as it relates to the idea of teaching men "how to treat women" is the hurdle men need to jump over because it is their sense of honor (or what I call men's "Perversions of Honor") that is at the root of why men are so phobic to learn anything about how or what women think, act, or feel.

In short, men have been conditioned to think it's gay to learn about women and their behavior even though it's the very thing they need to do if they intend to improve their love life. For example, as an exercise to get men who have the phobia "To learn about women is gay" past it and on to a better sex life, I have them go to the book store (with their woman if they have one) leave her outside and...his assignment is to simply buy a copy of "Cosmopolitan" magazine, take it somewhere and read it.

One male client I have went in and bought a copy of "Playboy" instead and then sent his woman in to buy the Cosomo. Now what in the "if you see Kay" is that behavior about? Talk about shooting yourself in the penis. Here's what happened. A week later his woman was gone.

I had to explain to him that not only did he fail the Kindergarten phobic test he had also surrendered his power to a woman,...And that is something a man should never ever do. Men with this phobia sometimes still don't get it even after they've lost their woman. What does begin to get a man to face his phobias is when I tell them his actions are examples of "Perversions of honor". It's the only thing that opened the mind of the man in this example.

On the other hand, I've had other men pass the Cosmo test, bring it back to the car, open the magazine, flip through it, then turn to their woman and say something to the effect of, "honey, you may not believe this but it took courage for me to accomplish this simple exercise. I hope you realize I'm doing this for us". I've had some of those men report back to me that they had sex with their woman "right there in the parking lot".

Men who are "Phobic to a fault" are also likely to be overly concerned about the size of their penis, and so they buy and take pills that will "enlarge the penis". I usually suggest that if they are concerned about penis size why not buy and use penis sleeves? I present it as an efficient alternative to pills that may or may not work as well as a way to help their phobia subside. For many, the penis sleeves help subside the phobia.

(On a side note one of the other things I suggest to men who are afflicted with "penis size phobia" is to insert only the tip of his erection into the vagina. Then begin an action of, "in just a little bit", then completely out of the vaginal opening. Then do it again, slowly at first, then faster, then slower, and continue this pattern as long as it takes for her to be ready for orgasm. Then you might go for the slam dunk. After a phobic man tries that little ditty, I get as many women thanking me as I do from men.)

The point is, and many therapists acknowledge, that to get a man to willingly entertain the notion that his own behavior might need to be adjusted is the most difficult aspect of council ling a man about anything, let alone personal relationships where sex can happen...I agree. This is why I tell men what they can learn from me is the difference between having sex with women and having sex with their sock.

In addition to using an improved sex life as a goal, in the curriculum I also use analogies that men relate to, such as deer hunting. I tell them if you go into the woods unprepared to hunt deer (meaning to learn about deer's behavior) it is highly unlikely you will bag any deer let alone the big Buck... the one with the finest rack you've ever seen. Men relate to analogies like that and so they will often pay attention to what they need to do to prepare to hunt a date, mate, or to cultivate a lover, etc.

Thus far, as therapists et al; discover that my theories and methods have actual therapeutic value their comments are positive in nature. For example,

A woman social worker from Pennsylvania said, "Until I spoke with you about your theories I did not realize that the way I treated my husband when he lost his job put him in the state of "Double Dis", something I do not want to do again".

A male counselor from South Carolina said, "Gary, you have to get this information into the hands of everyone, not just therapists. We all need to be aware of what drives us".

Meanwhile, If you have any questions or comments you can make them here or email me. gary@garyjamesradioshow.com I will try to answer your questions within the body of future articles and I will also try to tie in how my theories in sexual psychology might apply.

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