Letting Go of a Bad Relationship

A bad relationship is sort of like a drug - you feed on it again and again, and while it hurts you each time, you just can't let go of it. Sometimes it's because of the person, sometimes it's because of the need you have for them - but it always comes back to one of you getting hurt.

It's not healthy. It's not right. You do not have to go through it, and if you've ended a bad relationship, or you're planning on ending it, realize that it's for the best. Letting it go is the first step to building a new, healthier relationship with another person.

If you don't let go of a bad relationship, it will eat you up - there won't be anything left, and that's not a good option. For either of you.

We can often fool ourselves into believing that, somehow, we're worse off alone - that those frozen dinners we make are somehow effecting us, and that we need someone in our life. And that often means going back into the same draining relationship.

Maybe those dinners are effecting you - your judgment, that is. Keep in mind the stress, and unhappiness, that plagued your previous relationship with that person, and the feeling of misery that often accompanies it.

You are better off without that person - you don't need that sort of relationship, and you're going to be a lot happier by yourself.

Leaving a bad relationship is one thing - leaving it, and trying to let go, while the other person is begging you to return is another. Don't get sucked in, though, because no matter how many 'promises' are made, they're not going to change a whole lot.

Right now, it's just you, and you need to be thinking of just yourself. Not how she's never going to be able to live without you, or how she's just not going to be able to get along... but your real, true mental health, being with her.

A destructive relationship is bad for you, and bad for her - don't put her in a situation where she's going to be unhappy, either. Because even if she's 'a little sad' now, she's going to be a lot better off in the long run.

It's important, when you're trying to leave a relationship behind, that you focus on things outside of that relationship. It's even more important if it's a bad relationship you're letting go.

Instead of dwelling on it, get out and do something. Pick up a new hobby, like photography, or something to do with graphics - something that you've been meaning to do, but your relationship has prevented it from happening.

It's a great way to really spend time doing other things, and it can truly help you let go of what's been holding you back.

Overall...

Don't dwell - dwelling on a bad relationship won't make you happy, or put you in a new one. In the end, it's just going to make you feel worse.

Get out there, do something, and know that it's over. Let it go, and move onto something happier.