Letting Go:For A Better Chance at Love

The first thing that you must realize is that it is over. For whatever reason, it's over. The fat lady has sung. The show is over. Be comforted by the fact that this may just be a break and not the end. You never know. However, accepting where it is right now allows you to deal with it in the "now" instead of pretending and being disillusioned.

If you are the one who is walking away, you will feel guilt. There is no "right" way of letting go when matters of the heart are concerned. Do the best you can to communicate what you really feel. We put off having to let go of someone because we are concerned about how they will take it. It is not your responsibility to "make everything alright" when everything is not alright for you. Be respectful, be succinct, and be clear on why you are letting go. That truly is enough.

On the other hand, if you are one who is being dumped, you don't get any say as to how, why or when. You get to listen. It will either happen all of a sudden and very quickly or you will be sat down and have to listen to the reasons why you are now single. Either way, below are ways to combat this difficult scenario.

Talk About It

As intimate as your pain may seem, talking about it will help. (Talking to the wrong person may be the only flaw in this.) Try to find someone who is understanding and knows you enough to give you advice. On the flip-side, talking to a perfect stranger is okay too because they have no connection to you or your ex. This enables them to not choose sides which can give you insight about some uncouth behaviors that you or your ex may have exhibited in the relationship or during the break-up. I know that we are all perfect but perhaps, we could use a little tweaking in our perception after heartbreak.

Memories: Confirmation & Reinforcement

Feel free to remember the good and bad times. Go ahead and reminisce. Memories are all we have left after moments have passed. Remembering the great things that happened helps you to confirm that the time you spent loving someone else was well worth it. The bad times reinforce the reasons this separation needs to happen. They are your memories, use them.

Go Ahead and Feel

This is a perfect time to indulge in radical behavior such as eating a whole half gallon of ice cream, splurging on something you don't need or just sobbing like a baby. It sounds ridiculous but we all must understand that honoring our feelings help us to move on. Experts probably would warn against sinking into this type of behavior and having it lead to depression and other psychological issues so make it short and sweet. Tip: Do that thing that you always wanted but couldn't or wouldn't do when you were with your ex.

The Possibilities

Love is a great endeavor to have experienced. Falling in love again will be just as great. Please understand that although the relationship is over, your life is not over. You now have a chance to tweak some things in your personal life that will benefit you in your next relationship. You will meet others, you will love again and yes, everything will be alright.