Lies and Deceit - Ways to Catch an Online Affair

The stomach turning feeling you get when you suspect your spouse is having an online affair can be hard to cope with. Your spouse's sudden obsession with their computer, half truths that don't add up and disappearing acts for lengthy periods of time can drive you crazy. Suspicious agonizing thoughts can run a million miles an hour through your head. You may try to piece together things trying to make sense of it all or even try to deny what is happening before your eyes. After a while this will wear you down and you must set forth in finding out what is really happening. You may have been spending too much time making sense of nonsense. Its time to find out the truth.

Your spouse's strange actions can leave you frustrated and confused. If you really think that an online affair may be happening, then you must look into the situation further. There are a few clues and things to watch out for when finding out if your spouse is being unfaithful. As well there are also ways to catch them also. If you find that your worst nightmare is confirmed and you decide that leaving is what's best, there are some things you need to do before doing so. Remember though ignorance is bliss, once the truth is known it may be difficult to handle.

Here are a few signs that your loved one is betraying you:

He/she spends more time on internet than with family.

Household duties or chores have been neglected.

Your spouse spends lengthy period's online day or night without having a legitimate reason for doing so.

Your spouse prefers to be alone when surfing the internet.

Their computer is all password protected.

When you walk into the room they immedialty minimize the screen or shut down their computer.

The history on your computer has been cleared.

If you find that you are experiencing any of those situations in your household it may be time to take a reality check. It may be hard to believe that it is happening but when you finally accept that it is, you can start moving forward.

If you decide you want to find out more about what your spouse is doing, there are a few ways you can get the very details that will reveal you need to know.

To catch them in the act:

If your spouse doesn't use web based email you can disconnect the internet connection and check the emails sent and deleted for clues as to what is going on. Sometimes the adulterer will forget to clear these out.

You can also check to see if instant messaging records or chat room conversations are kept by looking on the computers hard drive in the archives.

There are also many computer surveillance software programs available to track a person's internet activity secretly. A few to name are:

www.awarenesstech.com/software/Consumer/

www.pcpandora.com

www.acespy.com

www.sniperspy.com

www.e-spy-software.com

To find out reviews on other popular software you can access a website called Top Ten Reviews. This website will provide you with consumer comments, product ratings, and its spying abilities. It can be found at the following web address.

http://monitoring-software-review.toptenreviews.com/

When the truth be known...

After the discovery of finding your suspicions of the online affair or affairs, you will then need to take a step back and decide what you need to do.

If you decide that leaving is the solution, do not move out until you first speak with a lawyer. This is a definite must if you have children. Start setting money aside for attorney legal fees. Make sure you make copies of all important documents such as tax returns, bank statements, birth certificates, pay stubs, and all stock and bond information.

Take an inventory of all your assets. Be sure to choose the right assets so you are not left with ones that cost too much money. Also it would be a good idea to take pictures of your home and belongings. Copy all family photos that you would like to keep.

Be sure most importantly you get emotional support to help you through the process.