Life After Love - Moving on After Getting Your Heart Broken

For anyone who's ever been in love, there's a good chance you've had your heart broken. If not, consider yourself lucky. As for the rest of us, we've all been to the point where we didn't know how we were going to ever live again. The truth is that life goes on whether we want it to or not. The world keeps turning no matter how bad we feel. This is why we have to learn how to bounce back and keep moving forward.

Love is a wonderful thing. It's something that every human being needs and yearns to find at sometime in their lifetime. Some people are lucky enough to hold onto it while others have it slip through their fingers. Love is the universal symbol that makes us all human. We all know what it means, have felt it at one time or another and are always seeking it out. It's the one thing worth fighting for and the one thing worth dying for.

You gave your heart away. You took that leap of faith. You jumped in head first. However you want to put it, you fell in love. Now it's gone. Whether they broke up with you or you broke up with them or some other outside force pulled you apart, it's over. If you find yourself trying to hide in the bottom of a bowel of ice cream or have acquired a large pile of tissues or however you deal with heartache, this is your wake up call. Today is the day you turn it around.

It's been said a million times but you are always surrounded by people who love you. Whether it's family or friends or anyone in between, there is at least one person one the planet who loves you and cares about you. These are the people you need to start spending more time with. They will be more than happy to reassure you of just how wonderful a person you are. They can also keep you busy. Go to a movie, go bowling, just go do something. If you're busy doing other things, you won't have the time to waste thinking about that person and the pain you may be going through. These are wonderful people and are very useful in your recovery.

When you leave the house, make sure not to forget your smile. It's proven fact it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile. Not to mention the fact that when you smile, you do start to feel better. It may seem silly faking a smile but if you're lucky, it'll soon become real. Who knows, you might just catch someone's attention with your pearly whites.

Don't spend another second dwelling on the events and every little detail trying to figure out how what you could have done differently. It's in the past. There is no such thing as a time machine so you can't go back anyways and fix it. Your focus should be on today and the future. Put all the bad thoughts and feelings out the window. They won't do you any good but will weigh you down. If you feel like this is the worst thing ever and you just can't go on, try and remember that there is someone somewhere who is worse off than you.

Next time you're out and about, making yourself noticed. If you stand a little taller, where clothing that's just a little too tight or harmlessly flirt with some stranger, there's a good chance someone's checking you out. You just have to start paying attention to those details. If you catch someone turning their neck or glancing in your direction, you should feel an immediate boost of energy. I'm not saying you have to go out and pick up the first person that comes along. I'm just saying that when you see yourself being wanted, it builds up your self esteem making you feel better. There's nothing wrong with being a little indulgent in times like these.

If you feel anger or hatred or any other evil thing towards this other person, don't take it out on them. Chances are that if you haul off and try harming them in any way, you'll end up in trouble. There's nothing worse than negative energy. If you're absolutely certain you won't feel better until you can release these feelings, then it's time to indulge yourself in a little bit of destruction. Draw over their pictures. Cut their heads out and crumple them up. Tear up or burn any love letters or flammable mementos. Blare loud and angry music while you take your rage out on such items. However, remember not to do any damage to their personal property. Also, if you do feel yourself needing to burn anything, try to keep safety in mind.

A very useful and productive way of getting things out is to write a letter. The key is not to send it. The simple act of putting it on paper and out in the open is very freeing. Since you won't be sending it, there are no rules. You can use any kind of language you choose and you can say all the evil things you wish to say knowing that no one will ever actually hear them saving yourself from any backlash later. These simple things may seem juvenile but you can't keep things bottled up. It will eat you alive.

If you love music, now's the time to pull out the songs about scorned lovers, cheating beaus, lying exes and everything in between. Singing along at the top of your lungs can be a release in itself. Let all the energy you've been building up out now. If you feel the need to rock out while you're at it, so be it. You have to do what you need to do. No one can really judge you but yourself.

At any time throughout your peril, do not sink to a lower level. You may feel the urge to call them or their new lover up and let them have it. It might make you feel better in the moment but there's a good chance that you'll regret later. If they feel the need to call you and have it out, it's called the off button. Words said in anger are always the worst. There's no need to make yourself feel any worse than you already do. Be the bigger person and don't let things escalate out of control. If thing's are over and you have no desire to try and mend things, leave well enough alone.

For those who feel that it's not over, odds are it's not. For whatever reason that you two ended things, if you feel that it was the wrong thing to do or if you just know that what you had was made to last, it's time to fight. Love is the most single and pure thing a human can ever come to know. If you know it's love, don't let it go. Do whatever it takes to get things back to where they were. True love really is worth fighting for and really worth dying for, figuratively speaking. If you don't try, you'll always wonder what if and regrets are the worst thing a person can have. Make sure that it's worth it. No need in going all out when it was more or less a passing thing. True love never ends. If it does, it was never true to begin with. Keep that in mind before you get ready to charge.

All and all, everyone's different. You're process might be totally different than the next person. Don't be ashamed to grieve and work through your emotions. Heartbreak is something that you have to get passed before you can fall again. Try to focus on the positive things in life. If one person can fall for you, I'm sure there's someone else who can take their place. You are perfect the way you are and if love was fleeting, maybe you just haven't found the person who was meant to love you. Keep your eyes open and take notice of everyone around you, your true soul mate could be just around the corner.