LIFE DOESN'T STOP for a BROKEN HEART

She wanted to die when he told her he didn't respect her. His behavior was intolerably out of control. It was as if an anvil from a cartoon had plummeted on top of her and she was still alive. Overwhelmed with emotion she jumped in her car hoping to be at a stoplight to catch her breath, but every time she arrived at one it was green. It was so frustrating and her inability to grieve made her realize life doesn't stop for a broken heart.

There's no such thing as a perfect relationship and even the ones that seem perfect have their imperfections. Long-term relationships are like a stick shift, your goal is to accelerate, so it's common to be oblivious of the signs that your partner has decided to shift down or reverse. Originally he/she may have wanted marriage but statistics and influences have made him/her reconsider. An anonymous author once wrote, the hardest thing to do is to watch the one you love, love someone else. Unlike him/her you're unable to turn off your feelings like a light switch. The pain stings a little longer and if you attempt to meet someone else you notice yourself comparing him/her to your ex. I've heard the proverb Time heals all wounds but I've learned on an individual basis. Friends and loved ones may try to rush your recovery but take as much time as you need to stitch your heart.

The death or abduction of a pet can be devastating and just like a human you've built a relationship with it. The thought of never seeing him/her again is unsettling especially when seeing pets that look similar to yours. No longer greeted at the door or snuggling close on the couch makes you appreciate the little things. Finding yourself unable to replace someone that's been apart of your family isn't easy. For some their pet was their therapist, someone that listened without judgment and when others aren't sensitive it hurts even more.

When you have a passion for something and it begins to be unattainable because of injury or no support depression can set in. You want to pursue it badly and you're encouraged not too. Some may want approval and when they don't receive it they feel shut down like lights out in a prison. You begin to feel powerless and operate on a routine. You begin to speak negative and any smiles you give are as artificial as the flavor in beverages. You'll soon learn pleasing self is more important than pleasing people. You'll loose so much of yourself if you need approval from people who don't share your passions. If injury is the case find a way to support it anyway, you may be able to help someone else.

Love is the most popular feeling, whether it's for a person, pet, or a passion to guard your heart from it blocks all potential memories to be made. From the experience of being broken-hearted you take the good from the relationship and focus on it. Sometimes we want to hold on to people who don't want to be held and are unaware of what a great mate is awaiting. Leaving all of the baggage behind and learning how to communicate better becomes a strength and no longer a weakness.