Life: Learning to Achieve Happiness and Accomplish Your Goals

A couple of nights ago there were some things about my life that I finally realized. Many of these realizations I am unhappy about. There are things, as a person, that I do not like about myself. These things, in which are bothering me, are interfering with my ability to be a better parent, interfering in my relationship, and just bringing me down as a person in general. These are things that no one can change but me.

I realized the other night that my life has been more so of one big excuse as to why I haven't gotten further in life than I have. I used circumstances in life as a way to hold me back and keep myself in a comfort zone. Because of doing this, I have missed out and have held myself back from succeeding at the things I want. In order to achieve these things, I know now that I have to jump out of my comfort zone and work hard to achieve the things that I want out of life.

There are goals that I am beginning to set for myself, which is a start. I am unhappy with my weight. I have begun working on that and have even joined a gym. Working out is also a way for me to feel better and to relieve stresses that may be going on to ware me down as well.

The second thing I am working on is finding a stable job. When my son was younger it was hard for me to work because of him being autistic. No one ever wanted to help me with him so that I could work. Now though, I realized the other night that I no longer have that excuse. That is what it is to, an excuse. I have always had this fear of failing and of rejection, so it was easy to just stay home and be a full time mom to him. He is older now and in school, so there is no reason why I can't go out and work. After all, one goal of mine is to open my own clothing store. In order to accomplish this, I need an income to make this possible. For some reason I just always expected things to just come to me, never realizing that I had to work hard to get them. I was happy at first with just getting by, but as I have gotten older I find that just getting by isn't enough for me anymore. It isn't enough either for someone to take care of me. I want to know that I can take care of myself and do well at it.

All these things hit me like a brick wall the other night. If you find yourself in the same situation, here is what I recommend. Plan out your life goals. Take small steps and work on achieving each of these. Don't make these goals unreachable. You need to be realistic when planning your goals. For me loosing weight and getting a stable job are reachable goals that can be obtained. Learn to live out of your comfort zone just a little. You may find that you have missed out on a great deal. If fear is what keeps you from achieving things because you don't want to feel disappointment or rejection, tell yourself that it's ok to fail because failing is what makes us stronger. Rejection also helps us to come back full force to achieve what we want out of life. Sure it may be a little blow to the ego, but you can bounce back. I know for my peace of mind I plan on following these goals and plans I have set for myself. Others can only bring you happiness to some extent, its up to us to do the things in life that will allow us to achieve our full happiness and potential. This was the realization that I learned the other night.