Little Things Women Love, but Can't Explain to Men Why

Guys: Do you want to do the things that remind her, and you, of how you felt about each other when things were new? Do you want to know what she really wants you to do to make whatever is in disrepair whole again? Whether you've been married twenty years or you're just beginning to date, if you know there's something about this person that you just don't want to lose, then read this and truly think about it.

Hold Her Hand While Your Driving Down the Road.

It may seem silly, but this has a way of melting a woman's heart. By all means, don't kill yourself, if you have to have both hands to drive, then use them. But at those moments that she doesn't expect it, and just for a few minutes, intertwine your fingers with hers. Caress them a little. Kiss the back of her hand lightly and smile. Little gestures like this will take you a million miles. Holding her hand lets her know you're thinking of her. Do it and take the time to enjoy a moment with your woman.

Oh, Those Little Compliments.

The Obvious: Tell her how beautiful she looks when she's just come out of the bath, when the two of you step out for an evening, or when she's holding the baby (yours, hers, a friends... whatever). This is especially effective with the latter; when she's in her natural maternal setting. Everyone wants a moment to feel like everything they've come through, all the hardships and emotional upheavals, and struggles have evaporated and they can honestly believe "It's all been worth it." You can give this to her with just a few simple words.

The Not-So Obvious:
There's something simply romantic about looking across the table at dinnertime to find that your man is staring at you. He's got that look of love, maybe playfulness; a creased smile, and as a woman, your heart starts beating slightly quicker. This is a sign that he's got you on his mind.

Men, as she steps down the stairs to greet you at the door after a long day, or when you come into the kitchen to find her at the stove cooking up something delicious, go to her. Hold her for a minute. A kiss? It's up to you. But the warmth of you against her signifies to her that you've been waiting to get home all day. It promotes her belief that whatever she's doing as a wife, or significant other, is just right. Ultimately it's the comfort ability of the moment that can brighten her day. "Ahh, this is what it's all about."

Don't you want to feel that too?

Flowers.

Timeless: Bring flowers that she loves, that compliment her, or that match whatever room they'll be residing in for the next week (this will prove that you put thought into them instead of using them as a generic gift).

Modern Day Twist: Bring one flower that you picked, or picked out just for her.

Kiss Her.

Wow. What a concept. You have this woman at your side who has loved you through probably your absolute worst moments, who washes stains from your underwear and scrubs your toilets, and the sweetest thing you can do for her; is just to kiss her. Next time you're standing in line at the video store, or the grocery, or Applebee's in the city, just lean over and give her a little peck on the lips and a smile. I don't care how upset you are with her, or she is with you, this one little public display of affection will warm her up. Because whether or not you know it, she's probably already sized up half the young, hot, skinny blonde girls who are walking around waiting tables, or in the check-out line. And she's wondering if you've noticed any of them. A kiss signifies that you've noticed only her.

Call Her!

Call Her. Text Her. E-Mail Her. This sounds so simple, but it actually works gentlemen! That phone call to find out how her day is going, if she has plans, (yes, make plans with her!) or just if she'd like to talk for a few minutes, is truly worth gold to the right woman. That phone call means that you do care about the situation. That little text that says "hey baby, just wanted to make sure you're having a good day" means more to her than jewelry on Valentine's Day. I Promise!

Show Up.

What's Stopping You? If an argument has happened and you can tell she is truly upset, just go to her. Drop your pride, let it take a walk for awhile, and go to her. You know she's hurting, you know you care about her, so what's stopping you? The action in itself speaks volumes for your character. It tells her that you do want to try and make things work, that you care, and that you're willing to go that extra mile (literally) to tell her so. This is worth even more if she knows that you cancelled something important in your life to make sure that she's alright. You'd do it for your friends (please, if Joe Bob got his truck stuck in the mud out at Johnson's bean farm, you wouldn't go pull him out?), so why not your woman?

Make Plans With Her.

Okay - so you have a busy life and you've got a zillion things on your plate right now. Too much to have to deal with some woman's emotional blubbering. Well - so make plans to take care of this. If you were having an issue with work, you would schedule a meeting to discuss concerns with co-workers, so why can't you do this with someone you care about? Right, you can. So do it. A relationship should be just as important as a career. Both will lead you through the rest of your life. You will have to work at both. We all do, women as well, so put this theory to the test. Schedule a date. The best type of meeting to discuss problems is the quiet sit-down. Tell her you'd like to make a date with her to sit on the porch with some beers, or a bottle of wine, perhaps just some lemonade or a glass of tea, and just be together. Watch the sunset, or the sunrise, listen to the sounds of nature or watch the stars, and settle both of yourselves down for awhile. This will open up some new avenues for you both to think about, and perhaps the feeling that this may be a good time to talk about some bothersome things. Quiet time and alone time are the best repairs for a torn relationship. Believe me, she thinks so too. Many times, the only thing a woman wants is a little more of your time.

The Gift.

Yeah, I know, but it isn't what you're thinking. The point is this; you can bring a gift to her in the smallest way possible that will break through whatever barrier needed with just a little bit of thought. The spontaneous gift sends a message of thoughtfulness, and the one thing that most men lack; consideration. These are the gifts I'm talking about: A book she mentioned seeing on Oprah, a flat of garden flowers for the front walkway, or the kind of shrub she's always wanted on the side of the house, a video with her favorite actor or actress, a CD of her favorite singer or band. What it comes down to is think about her for a minute. What has she been complaining about that she could really use but doesn't have it, or ran out, or doesn't have the money to buy it? Does she have a fish tank? Get her a couple of fish. If you're dating, does her little boy love the movie "Cars"? Get him a plastic 'Mater' car. Be thoughtful. Be unselfish and go out of your way to pick up something she could really use. Now, as a side note, do NOT, whatever the situation, get her a set of tires for her birthday, or potholders and socks for Christmas.

Let Her Talk.

Guys, I can't stress this enough. Too often women are left completely overwhelmed by what they think needs to be said. This happens because women are and will always be empathic and emotional creatures. We can literally feel what is going on around us like a vibration. Like being tuned in to everyone else's emotions at once. The tension, the stress, the jealousy and anger, laughter and joy. You can't change this. This is the way women were created. Where would children be without this nurturing; this guidance to teach a deeper meaning to life? Where would you have been without that from your Mother, or Grandmother, or Aunts, friends, etc? Leaving things without allowing communication, or without some sort of closure, leaves a woman who will explode. If you don't want to be at the receiving end of this explosion, let her talk. Let her be a little irrational. Let her let it all out, because once she does she'll be able to think about what she's feeling as well. This gives her an out as much as you. And it gives you both a way inside each other. You wouldn't have come this far if you didn't really want this woman in your life. And if she's making an effort to communicate what's going on with her, then your effort is to allow it. It won't all make sense, and she'll come back later and tell you that, and apologize for it, but it'll ease the tension enough so that cooperation and understanding become available. And then...

LISTEN.

Shut up and Listen to what she has to say. Take it in. Absorb it. Most of the time men don't like to listen to a woman 'rant and rave' or 'nag' because they know that what she is saying makes sense, it gives them a tremendous amount of guilt, and they just don't have time for that guilt in their lives. We understand, who does? But if you want the right woman, a good woman and one that truly cares for you and herself, then you'll make time to listen, understand, feel a little guilty (and show her that you feel a little guilty), and then bring her flowers or hold her hand. Her dilemma's stem from her fear of vulnerability, at putting her heart into something unsure. And much of the time all she really needs is assurance. So listen, I bet you'll learn something about her or yourself, that you probably needed to know.

As simple and age old as these sweet things may seem, they can really make all the difference. You will be amazed when the right woman responds lovingly to your gestures. Don't be surprised if one of these, or a combination of these completely repairs whatever wrongs have happened in your relationship, or brings a budding relationship into another level. Do these things regularly. Make it a habit to let her know how much you care. Simple steps can help make the next small upset in your relationship merely that; a minor one that you both can work through easily and without drama. Why, how? Because you've already established with her that you care that much. You've acknowledged that you're a willing partner, and she will reward you with total reciprocation.