Live Your Truth from the Start

Recently, Oprah Winfrey had a panel of guests on her show that had been married, came out, and are now living "their truth."

Good for them.

What irritated me was how it was all about them. What about their spouses who, for years, were deceived? I know that I would be less than supportive, vexed is more like it, if my spouse dropped such a bombshell on me after wasting my best years. Sorry, but I wouldn't be sympathetic; nope, not me. Why?

Wouldn't I have the right to live my truth by marrying someone that was genuinely attracted to me?

What kind of person (straight or gay) lives a lie and deceives their spouse while getting it on the sly? Have the courage and decorum to stand up from the beginning and live your truth before you drag someone else into the mix--a person who mistakenly thinks they're marrying someone that feels desire for them.

Not to mention, it is dangerous and disrespectful to subject one's spouse to potential diseases when they think they're in a monogamous marriage.

I'm all for living one's truth, but not at the cost of someone else's dignity when there was a choice, truth was denied, and a person was left devastated so that another could be "set free."