Living on Less - Family Stress

We all live under some sort of stress, but I think it is the young new mothers who have it the worst. They are young and inexperienced to cope with babies, sometimes working at the same time, or just from life in general. Sometimes they have been with their parent's and are just now getting out into the world. They have seen their parent's struggle with the bills and now they too are getting the bills. This is for the young, new mothers and families. Yes, the bills and other stressful things will be there later, but for now, it's time for you!

See if you can get somebody you know and trust with the small kid's or babies, see if they would care for them for 2 weekends a month. You need this time to re-fresh, to re-charge yourself. Especially if you have more than one child. Get away from the house during this time. First-time motherhood is difficult at any age, but in particular, when you're younger, around 16 to 25 years old. Just getting out and walking through the park will help, get some fresh air in that body of yours! If it is summer, try walking barefoot.

Go with your husband or boyfriend; relive how it was just the two of you. If the children are with somebody you trust without a doubt, you should enjoy the 2 day's you have without thinking of them until it is time to go home. If it is too much at 2 weekends, make it just 1 weekend a month.

When I had my kid's, by the time our son was 2 years old, I had just had our daughter a few months earlier, my parent's could tell it was taking a toll on us, so they offered to take the kid's every other weekend so my husband and I could get some re-charge time, and to be together just us two. They did this for about 6 year's, until they were ready for school. You have all week....24/7 with the kid's, plus trying to work if you do. It is bound to get a bit grumpy day after day, to say the least. The last thing you want is ending up wishing you never had the children. The children are God's gift to us, and should be treated as such.

If you feel a breaking point coming on, call somebody, a friend, relative, neighbor ASAP! Have them watch the kid's for an hour, 2 hours, then walk away and chill out! You might feel like crying a river... do it, you just might feel better afterwards, letting the stress of the moment out of your system. We read too much in the news where young mothers who had nobody to call, to help them through a bad day, and the child suffered the anger of the parent.