Long Distance Relationships

Some people feel that long distance relationships are not a good idea. I feel different about being that I have experienced it first hand. I was in a long distance relationship for over two years and it was on of the best relationships I have ever had. All relationships take work. You have to have trust, understanding and the biggest one of all is you have to be happy together. I know that many long distances relationships fail because of how often you have to spend time apart. It is hard and it takes a lot of work but there are some good things to it.

One good thing about it is that every kiss feels like the first. When you spend so much time apart you kind of loose that comfortable feeling. Everyone that has ever been in a relationship knows that feeling. Its the feeling where it just becomes a routine and you do it out of habit. So when you are away from someone for a long time, or don't get to spend a lot of time with them that first kiss when you see them again is so amazing. I always looked forward to that. In fact every time you see them again it all feels like new and I think that it keeps the relationship alive. There are some people that get bored with being with the same person every day, every minute. So it helps to keep things new.

Another up side to having a long distance relationship is that everyone needs there space some time. You need time to yourself to relax and just do what you want for a while. It is hard to keep someone else happy when you don't even get a second to make yourself happy. So with your other half being far away it gives you more time for you. Also it makes you enjoy the time you do get with that person a lot more. We take people and time for granted so often and we never really stop to see how much we really enjoy the time we have with them. So when you don't get the time as much it just makes the time you do have together that much more special.

One of my favorite things about having a long distance relationship is that when you get to talk to them you always have so much to say. They are not there with you all day long so you get to share the events of your day with them. A lot of people complain that there partner and them never have much to talk about, and that is because if you are together all the time they know what is going on and it doesn't leave much for you to talk about. In fact I used to spend hours on the phone telling him about my day and hearing about his. I think we all need that once and a while. So if you are in a relationship try spending some time apart and it will help you have things to talk about.

And of course there are the bad sides to having a long distance relationship. Just like any relationship there will be disagreements, but with a long distance relationship the other person is not there to work things out and it is hard sometimes to work things out over the phone. There will also be times that some thing important will come up and you may want the other person there to share it with you, and they may not be able to make it. That is a really hard thing to deal with. I went through that a lot but we got through. Another hard part is some times you may just want them to be with you because you miss them and they cant always be. There are many obstacles, with all relationships, but if you want it to work you have to put the effort in. If you are in a long distance relationship you also have to think about where it is going to end. You don't want it to be that way forever so you need to talk about where, in the future, you are going to live. Are you going to move there or are they going to move here. That may be a hard decision to make considering that you both have your own lives and it will be hard to ask the other one to give up what they have. If you are sure that is the person you want to be with than find a way to make it work. All relationships take time and effort but if you are sure that person is the one for you don't give up just try a bit harder. Everyone wants to find that one person they can spend the rest of their lives with, but some times that person is miles and miles away. Some times I think we forget that there is a whole world out there with so many different people and we just settle for what comes along instead of going to look for our happiness. Well don't settle, there is so much out there and we all deserve to be truly happy.