Long Distance Relationships Are Great!

Long distance relationships can be the hardest type of relationship you will ever have. You have to work hard for your relationship to work and you will have to be creative with how you keep in touch. You cannot see each or go on dates like "normal" couples; instead, you get to have phone dates and e-mails shooting across cyberspace 20+ times a day.

Long distance relationships do not have to be very bad though. Think of all the positives about it. I know it is hard when all you want is to hold that special someone, so I am going to tell you the positives. Bare with me, it will make you feel a little better.

Have you ever heard friends say that their relationship has become boring? You have probably heard this many times. This is one of the good parts of being away from your significant other. You will always have that excitement of thinking about being with that person whenever the next time you both have arranged a visit. You can talk and think about it for hours. You count down the days and then when you see that person, it is like an explosion. How boring can that be?

So you do not spend every waking minute with each other, some couples will tell you that they could not ever do that. However, those same couples have completely absorbed themselves into their relationship. The couple has become one instead of two people who are together. Some couples lose their identity in the relationship and that is often why those relationships do not succeed. For those in long distance relationships, each person can continue to live their life and keep their identity. They can do what they need to do each day and then come back and share that with their significant other.

Having things to share is one of the great things about meeting someone new. When you meet someone, you want to know everything about them and you can talk for hours. Couples, who are together all of the time, have a hard time sharing what they have done that day because they have been together all day. Those in long distance relationships always have new things to share with each other. They recount their whole day and then discuss it. Since the other person was not there, the person has to describe what the day was like and that gives the other person enjoyment. It makes each call, e-mail or visit fun because you enjoy hearing about what your loved one has been doing while you were apart.

You are also less likely to get on each other's nerves. Face it, couples who are together all the time, get on each other's nerves. Anyone who spends too much time with someone will get annoyed with him or her. You do not have to worry about that in a long distance relationship. People in a long distance relationship do not see enough of the other person to get annoyed.

Couples need breaks from each other. It is hard when couples live near each other to get a break because if one of them says that they need a break, the other usually becomes offended. Then the relationship wavers because the person feels unwanted. In a long distance relationship though, you do not have to worry about that. You have breaks, more than you want, I know, but at least you will not need one and risk it ruining your relationship.

Long distance relationships test the trust in your relationship. Being apart from one another, there may be times when someone may be tempted to cheat. A long distance relationship will show how dedicated the couple is to each other. Couples who are always together usually do not have a chance to cheat unless they really want to, for long distance people it is a lot easier.

Another great thing about long distance relationships is that you still have time to spend with your friends. We all know how it goes when you get into a relationship, your friends feel like you left them. Your friends will not feel this way if you are in a long distance relationship. You can keep your friends happy and have a great relationship.

So there you have it, reasons why having a long distance relationship is great. I am talking from experience so do not think I do not understand what it is like. I dated my husband for three months before he was stationed (in the military) somewhere else. We were in a long distance relationship for two years before we could be together. Those were two long years, but it made our relationship so strong. We learned so much from being apart from each other. We knew that when we finally were able be together, we would be together forever.