Love: A Difficult Yet Amazing Emotion to Obtain

Love is a very rare thing to find; that is, true love. Many people may feel that they have found love, when they are terribly mistaken. Physical intimacy is not the epitome of love, nor is finding someone who will do what you want. Love is ineffable, indefinable, poignant, amazing. If you are able to truly find someone who you love, then your heart will experience more emotions than you knew were possible.

When do you know that you love someone? It varies from person to person, as only love can be defined by you; however, if you are too quick to admit you love someone, or jump into a relationship far too fast, then chances are what you're experiencing is not love. Rather, it is most likely the immediate rush or sensation you feel amidst the first bit of time when with someone. However, if you feel that you would do anything for that person, or feel like you would perhaps even die for your significant other, then perhaps you're beginning to experience what love truly is. The first stages of love, I like to feel, are visible in the eyes of your loved one. If you peer deeply into their eyes - an immense or vast sea of telling emotions - you can see how they feel. I'm not talking about after physical intimacy, yet simply at any given moment if you gaze into their eyes, you will see what love looks like. If you see nothing, or feel nothing, then perhaps you don't love them, or they don't love you. Now, that's not to say that perhaps different people have different ways of showing or communicating their love; rather, the common term "goo goo eyes" or "puppy eyes" are a common sign or signal of love at an early stage.

As time progresses with your loved one, you hopefully will grow closer, and feel stronger together. This is certainly a healthy step, so if you're not experiencing such advancements, perhaps you need to speak with your partner. Your goal with your loved one is to make them a better person, in any and every way possible. If you feel that you have bettered them, and they feel improved because of you, then you are certainly succeeding as a couple. Relationship wise, if your significant other in any way "brings you down" or deteriorates you emotionally/physically, then it is an unhealthy relationship, and I advise you to escape it before you are in "too deep." Now, of course, there will

always be fights in your relationships, as that is certainly a healthy thing. The most important part about fighting, however, is how you handle both your fights as well as your solutions to them. As long as you stay respectful to the other person, and take into consideration their feelings and emotions at all times, then your fights will never get ugly, and will be solved rather quickly. Following your fight, as well, it is critical that you are able to maintain or re-obtain your normal emotional state, as once you have made up with your partner, you should no longer hold a grudge with them.

Best of luck with your significant other, and always remember to treat them fairly and with respect. No matter what happens, if you treat them well, then you will most likely always come out better and stronger. Treat them right, and things should work out fine.