Love is About Laughter

You might think that love is all about the deep things in life. The bonds of love have many different levels and are based upon some pretty simple concepts. One might think that the strong bonds of love might be about the deep sacrifices that people make for each other. Love is a little simpler than that.

Love might be as simple as a laugh or an inside joke. Research conducted with 52 couples found that laughing strengthens the relationship. "When people laugh at the same thing, they validate each other's opinions," says lead author Dr. Doris Bazzini. She also elaborated that "inside jokes or pet names-things others just don't get-strengthen ties between couples."

One of the main reasons why people who laugh together find that they grow to have affection towards each other is because laughter is a pleasurable experience. The more positive memories you have of each other the more you love the other person. These memories create positive feelings toward each other.

Have you ever ate something and got sick and never wanted to eat that food again? You might not want to eat that food for sometime. You have a natural aversion to it. The same thing applies to relationships that have a lot of negative images. Negative images and memories create aversion.

These negative images add up to pull the relationship apart. When things go bad the first things someone does is think about all the positive and negative things that may have happened in the past. They create a kind of positive and negative tally sheet. If the negative images add up to be more than the positive there is a good chance the couple could break up.

The second component of love is those secret little pet names and inside jokes that no one else knows about. These little secrets help the couple feel bonded to each other. They feel as though they are in their own little world with their own language that no one else can understand.

It is not the seclusion of these secret symbols that is important but the fact that the couple has something special between them. To lose these special symbols is very difficult and most people know they won't find someone else who can ever come close to matching the relationship. If you are afraid of losing those little sayings and symbols you might just be in love.