Love Your Man Unconditionally Without Losing Yourself

Falling in love is a beautiful experience to have when you are starting a relationship with someone.

Everything seems just right and peachy right?

What goes wrong sometimes?

Here is an example.

A woman meets a man. As they spend more time together, she is really into him. There she goes. She is falling in love with him.

She is in love and she has fallen hard! What does she do next?

She gives it up.

No not sex, that could or could not have happened here. What does she give up? Herself: Her interests, Her time with mom shopping at the mall.
Her time with her friends, her Single friends (Don't you hate it when as soon as a man walks into your female friends life, they sorta fall off the planet?)
Her hobbies-she used to run 3x a week. Or go to the gym, Or read a book a week. She might have enjoyed taking her dog to the beach whatever it is! She put herself and her likes aside so she could spend more "quality time" with her man.

Only problem is that just when she 'gives it all up, she is no longer the woman that her man fell in love with. So what does it mean again to be a 'smart woman' in love? Know one truth about love and relationships.

You must love your man unconditionally without losing yourself.

I will tell you that is one of biggest mistakes a woman makes when getting involved in a serious relationship. To be so engrossed in a man's life that she starts to neglect my her own life..

Here is a scenario that illustrates it wonderfully, in the scene of a movie called Blue Crush, a tale of a young woman struggling between her dream of surfing the famous and dangerous waves in Hawaii, "The Pipeline" and pitching it all for her new "Football player boyfriend."

Girl: What do I do?

Guy: Just be the girl that I met at the beach.

Girl: And what was she like?

Guy: She would never ask a man what to do.

What a decision to make!

To surf the most treacherous and dangerous wave on this planet and be a champion surfer chick or keep the guy. Gee, the decisions women have to make?
Let me ask you this, if the tables were turned honestly, what do you think the man would choose?
How powerful it would be to stay the same as when a man first met you and fell in love.

That is where that saying must come from, "Men marry woman hoping they never change and women marry men hoping they will."
Lose your sense of self and you most certainly will lose the guy.

Just because you meet a man and you two hit if off does not mean you should just kick off your shoes, get all comfortable and eat bon bons from now on.

"But I don't have any interests other than finding me a man".

Well if you think this way, you have already lost in the game of love. If a woman defines herself by the man she is with, she is no more a puppet, moving and acting by hands of her man's desires and not her own. That is no way to live. You had some kind of life before you met him and you gain nothing from giving it all up for him.

Well what if I don't have any interests or hobbies?
What if I don't even know who I am?

As cliche as it sounds, it is still true. You can only be loved to the degree that you love yourself. You see when you LOVE yourself, you also won't put up with some of the crap that some women do by the men who supposedly love them.

So what's it going to be ladies?

Being a smart woman in love basically means not losing yourself in the process.

When a woman gives up herself she not only loses herself but all the wonderful things that attracted her to the man in her life.