Love and Rejection

Healing and Moving On

Crystal Ray
Rejection is something that everyone has to deal with at one time or another. Even those with a great deal of confidence and self-esteem will ultimately experience rejection at some point in their lives, and for those who have yet to experience rejection, the feeling of rejection is comparable to being slapped in the face, only the pain can be much worse. The emotional pain of rejection lingers much longer than physical pain, and it sometimes leaves obvious scars that affect future relationships.

It is possible to overcome rejection and avoid suffering from lingering emotional pain, but it is not necessary to understand why the rejection occurred in order to heal. Those who were once infatuated by a particular individual and were ultimately faced with rejection must only understand they are not necessarily to blame. This is the first step in healing and eventually dealing with the pain of rejection.

What Did I Do Wrong?

If you have to ask what you did wrong, chances are you did not do anything wrong. The problem more than likely lies within the other person, and you are not solely to blame. Being rejected does not mean you are unattractive, unappealing, or undeserving of love. It simply means that for unknown reasons, the person who was once in your life made the decision to cut ties. In reality, your former love interest might not have wanted to become emotionally involved with anyone, and he or she may have even felt undeserving of the attention and love you had to offer.

Why Did I Fall for This Person?

Everyone has special characteristics, and if you fell for someone who ultimately rejected you, chances are you are the type of person who looks for the good in everyone. You may have been initially attracted to their looks or appreciated something unique about their personality. Maybe you were never really compatible and simply wanted someone to fill a void in your life.

Hindsight is always 20/20, and in retrospect, you can probably figure out why you were initially attracted to someone who ultimately rejected you. Figuring out what drew you to that person in the first place will lend credence to the fact that you are deserving of love, and you should not continue to beat yourself up over a loss that did not develop into true love. True love is unending, unquestionable, and will never reject you for who you really are.

Am I Worthy of Love?

Everyone who has love to offer is worthy of receiving the same in return, and when you finally meet the man or woman you are destined to spend the rest of your life with, it will be easy to understand the difference between true love and infatuation. Take your time when searching for a new love interest, and do not jump too quickly into another relationship. After experiencing rejection, you will know when you have met someone who is truly worthy of your love, and there will be no question in your mind as to how that person feels. It sometimes takes rejection to recognize true love when it comes along, and in time, the painful feelings that lingered from rejection will forever fade into the past.

Published by Crystal Ray - Featured Contributor in Lifestyle

Crystal Ray is an award-winning freelance writer and artist from the Chicago area. Her passion is interior design, but she also loves entertaining and crafting. She is continually developing unique and creat...  View profile

  • If you have to ask what you did wrong, chances are you did not do anything wrong.
  • Being rejected does not mean you are unattractive, unappealing, or undeserving of love.
  • Chances are you are the type of person who looks for the good in everyone.

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