Love and Sex Addiction

Love and sex addictions are much misunderstood afflictions that affect millions of men and women. They represent all walks of life and impact millions of people in a very damaging way. Over 80 percent of these individuals were molested as children. Most have suffered addiction in the family system. Because the entire family is impacted by addiction, all of it's member must recognize their need for help. Counseling and 12 step programs are available for recovery. Left untreated the disease of addiction is chronic, progressive and fatal.

The profile of the love and sex addict shares much of the same pathology with the sex offender. Though much of the sex addicts behaviors do not lead to legal offenses they do experience impairment in two or more life are making life very unmanageable. Abuse is quite prevalent as the addicted person needs more and more arousal. As the needs for arousal grow the is often need for more and more kinky or perverted types of sex. Love addicts may engage in several relationships at a time.

There comes a time when every addict knows that his or her life is out of control. this often occurs after a period of social isolation. The party invitations end because of boorish behaviors, the wife leaves because of the affairs, or the teenage daughter is too embarrassed to bring her friends home because of the inappropriate attention given to them by her Dad. Men and women jump from one relationship to the next., each one more devastating.

Job impairment is frequent. Individuals may be reported for sexual harassment, or decide to leave their job because of failed sexual entanglements. Often, individuals are just to preoccupied to perform the required duties of their employment. Individual may be accessing porn on the computer at work or having phone sex on the job.

Money problems develop when individuals become involved in affairs, prostitution, or develop legal problems. The cost of pornographic materials and adult sex toys may cut into the budget for the children's shoes.

Interpersonal relationships diminish when individuals move from partner to partner. Often, the love - ex addict has little identity of their own and has difficulty spending time alone. Since the addict uses his behaviors to suppress their feelings, an addict alone is in bad company. Often this individual will have multiple partners at one time.

Physical problems take a drastic toll. The obvious effects of STD's, HIV, AIDS, and unplanned pregnancies are the result of sex addiction. Other stress related accidents and health conditions are often coupled with drug and alcohol addiction and dependency.

Mentally, individuals are preoccupied in fantasy. This can impact their education , job performance, and intimate relationships. Much of their time is spend planning sexual encounters, making excuses, and telling lies so they can acquire their deadly nemesis.

Spiritually, the quilt that results becomes and ever escalating portion of the addictive cycle. The more intense the compulsive behaviors become the more regrets the individual will suffer. This requires more sexual encounters to keep from feeling the pain.

Emotional problems develop when an individual becomes involved with yet another person that the have nothing in common with or don't even like. Individuals may become embarrassed or ashamed when they enter a meeting and discover that they have slept with everyone in the room. The sex addict may be mortified when their son or daughter discover telescopes, pornography, or sex toys..

Sex is not the only component of sexual addiction. Love addicts need constant affirmation and adoration. This is often a power trip. These individuals can be rescuers when minute and abusers the next. It is not the sex they are addicted to but the feeling of power and control.

Those that become involved with the addicted individual are harmed drastically. Children of sex addicts grow up with the addiction even when is is not obvious in the home. Spouse who are unable to get their needs met by a preoccupied partner are left with a choice between divorce and unhealthy behaviors of their own.

If you think your sex life is unmanageable, you may be a sex addict. There are counseling group and 12 Step meetings available to address the problems you may be experiencing. Each addict effects the life's of at least four other people. Help yourself and help those you are causing harm to and seek help, now. For counseling help or information on support groups call Fairbanks Hospital at :317-849-8222.