Make a Change for a Much Better Relationship

My girlfriend and I use to argue with each other all the time. We would argue it seemed like every other day. Then one day we just stopped. We are now getting along better than we ever had, we laugh and joke and tease each other (out of fun of course), which is something we could never do before. However, we now give each other much more respect.

We both use to be afraid of saying anything to each other because we never knew what might set off an argument. Now I know you're saying then way stay together? Well, because we both knew that we each had good qualities and how good the other person could be. We knew how good we were in the beginning of the relationship and how good we were to each other when we weren't arguing. We weren't cheating on each other and we didn't have money problems (don't get me wrong we don't have much money, it's just not a problem), we just both had things that got on each other's nerves so bad that sometimes it just blew up out of proportion.

Okay, so what changed? Fair question. What changed was we both decided to change ourselves instead of trying to change the other person. We started looking at the things we were doing that might be causing the problem instead of blaming each other for causing the problem. We decided to change the way we re-acted to things and put them in their proper perspective. For me, I have things that if anybody does them it irritates me to no end and my girlfriend does most of those things and it use to cause a lot of problems. But by changing the way I re-act to those things my girlfriend was more willing to try to be more conscious of them and not do them.

Now I'm no saint, I also did things that irritated my girlfriend. So I had to look at those things and also make a conscience effort to not do them. It's hard sometimes to look at yourself and say that you are the one that is wrong, but once you face that fact you are on your way to correcting it.

One more thing though, in order for this change to work, both partners has to be willing to make the change. So if you're having problems in you're relationship but you want to stay together. If you really care for each other and you really want your relationship to work out. If you really want to enjoy each other, make the change. Believe me you'll be glad you did.