Make Your First Questions the Right Questions

You've written the best profile you could for your online dating bio, and have uploaded a nice picture of yourself. And, finally, you are about to chat with a girl: What to ask her? How would you be able to find someone you like physically and mentally online without actually meeting for a long time? You know that there are many pretenders out there- people who like to think of themselves (or at least appear) as something much nicer than what they actually are.

Then again, she could be for real, and a woman you would love to meet and actually date. You would have to make sure that you can feel her out online- without offending her, or scaring her away. They all love to have women broadcast who they are in obvious terms: "Gold digger" or "Daddy's girl..." But women are not like that at all. So how can they filter these women? That is what this article is about- how to avoid making obvious and suspicious mistakes while feeling any woman out.

One of the first questions you can for your own benefit in this venture, and about your chatters experience is "What are some of the worst mistakes that guys have made while dating you online (and in real life)?" A careful parsing of her answer will reveal a lot about her views on men, and her personality. If you feel that the first answer was short, a surefire way to get everything out of her is asking her "What do you really feel about online dating?" She will eagerly divulge her bad experiences- and help you avoid making the same mistakes with her (or make them, if you want to end it).

And finally, a critical question: "What caused the end of your last relationship?" Handle her carefully if she lays the blame ALL on the guy: you may even want to move on. If she blames herself for it all, she is a project, not a partner. You should move on. The right answer, which indicates a possibly good relationship forthcoming, is that of a mutual break-up. Start moving forward, armed with some easily gleaned knowledge, but great advice. Asking the right things will make you confident, and arm you with enough knowledge to never slip up. So when you meet her for the first time, it will go perfectly.