Make Her Day Special Without Overspending

All of those advertisements about huge sales at Zales and prices that will make your day at Kay don't make a difference for those who can't afford even the marked down prices. In fact, they can make a person feel like everyone else in the world has the money for those things but them. It's depressing. How can you make her day when you can't even make the payment? Gestures say so much more than gifts, and words can speak volumes, too.

Do something for her.

Your woman will thoroughly enjoy a day free of cooking and cleaning. Is the laundry piling up? Take care of it for her. Does she need a break from cooking? Make her a fancy dinner for a change, and clean up afterwards. Does something need to be done? Have her enjoy herself while you tend to it. Look around your house. What could be cleaner? Do as much as you can, and maybe you can spare her some work not only today but for some time to come.

The kids constantly demand her attention. What could you be doing? Tend to their needs, instead of having her do it. If one falls down, be the one to kiss the boo-boo better. If someone needs food, you fetch a snack. If she usually takes them to school and picks them up, why don't you do it for a change? Help them with their homework. Whatever it is she usually does for the children, do it today. You may even enjoy it. Let her have a break.

When you're finished, give her a foot massage or a back rub. Make a warm bubble bath for her to soak in while listening to her favorite music. Treat her! When was the last time you took her for a picnic in the park? For a stroll in the moonlight? Has it been weeks since she went to the beach? Take her. Pamper her for this one day. Make her as comfortable as you can, and help her enjoy life. Let her escape from the mundane.

Say something (nice) to her.

You probably tell her you love her often, but how often do you look her into the eyes and say it like you really mean it? Take a moment out of your day to look her in the face and say those three words. Say 'please' and 'thank you.' Show your manners. A simple 'thank you' can mean so much. Ask her instead of telling her to do things, if you don't already. Tell her how much you appreciate her. Let her know that you understand what her life is like and all that she does. Be specific! Most importantly, say something nice to her. Pay her a compliment. Tell her she's beautiful or that she makes the best apple pie this side of the Mississippi. Don't be cheesy though. Really mean what you say. No bullshitting.

Give her something money can't buy.

Make her some cookies or muffins, a cake or a pie. Write her a love letter, poem, or song. Make her a mix tape or CD. Create a photo album of special memories. Did she lose something long ago? Find it for her. Give her a passionate kiss. The best thing you can give her is the best of you. Be nice to her. Give her compliments. Say thank you. Don't snap at her; don't show an attitude. Just be polite, patient, understanding. Give her a break from bickering. Groom yourself and dress well, so that you're attractive and smell good. Does she love you in a certain pair of boxers? Put them on! The best gift you can give is yourself--and a reminder of your love.

Make the whole day special, start to finish.

Start when you wake up. If you get up before her, why not make her breakfast in bed? Clean up the kitchen then. Do the morning chores yourself. Let her sleep in if she wants. When she gets up, say good morning to her and wish her a happy day. Pay her a compliment. Do the dogs need to be fed or walked? Do it, while she eats. Get the kids ready and dressed yourself; take them to school if that needs to be done. If you both have to work, meet her for lunch, or call her at work just to say hello. Email her love notes. If you're home all day together, just let her relax. You take care of what comes up, and tend to her needs. Be nice to her, and don't argue.

Pick the kids up from school when the time comes. If it's Mother's Day, cook a special meal for the family. For her birthday, make a candle-light dinner for just the two of you at home. Clean up afterwards. Let her chose your evening activities; let her chill while you put the kids to bed. When all is quiet, turn some music low and dance with her. Or really focus on her in bed. You could even just talk to her about your hopes and dreams until you drift off to sleep. Make her feel appreciated, loved, special, and beautiful until she drifts off, in the way you speak to her, touch her, and treat her.

If you don't have the money to buy her something, there are still so many things you can give her. Some of them are material, and some of them aren't. You know your woman best; you should know what will make her glow. Make her something. Do something for her. You can make a woman feel beautiful and appreciated without having cash. She didn't marry you for your money. There is a kind, thoughtful, expressive man in there that she fell in love with. Let him out again!