Make Your Marriage Last by Planning for Sex

Many people think that sex is spontaneous and that when it happens it is magical; these people probably aren't married or don't have kids. After being married and having my blessed six children I learned that being spontaneous isn't always what is cracked up to be. Planning for sex is what reminds us that we can after all still have sex even with six kids, one dog, a turtle named turtley, and a house full of toys. Planning for sex is what keeps us focused on each other even though we are sometimes reminded that little ears are right across the hall.

How do you plan for sex with children? Great question and trust me; I have gone through just about every way imaginable to find the right way to plan for sex in my married.

Planning for sex should be all about you

I am a romantic and so is my husband for the most part. I like candles and dim lights but we can't always be like Burger King and have it our way so we started planning around events that are children have and making room for ourselves. My husband and I plan to have sex at least one night a week and any other time is spontaneous but this allows us to be able to not only plan around our children's time but also around ours.

Planning for sex without the kids around

There is nothing worse than being in the heat of the moment and having your four year old daughter walk into the room screaming or even worse, turning around and seeing your two year old staring at your and telling daddy to stop hurting mommy. Sex is best without the kids around. I know how hard it is to find a babysitter on a weekend so why not do it during the weekday. It doesn't always have to be right before you go to bed; sex is meant for anytime of the day or night. We usually hire a babysitter for a few hours when the kids don't having any activities scheduled and we have our moment then.

Planning for sex when you can't find a babysitter

Let's say that you can't find a babysitter and it is your night to have fun with the spouse. One thing that I love about these nights when we can't find a babysitter is that we often have a lot of fun since we have to play games such as "don't wake the babies up". I also enjoy these nights since we get to have a little fun in other parts of our house such as the garage or outside. I always hook the baby monitor up and lock the door behind us to the garage with the key still in the door for emergencies. Once the kids are down for the night it is count down to mommy and daddies time. I must say that I truly love that we have a privacy fence going around our yard and a shed in the back. Moments like these are priceless and very fun.