Making the Dating Hook-up

Sometimes we meet a woman that we are interested in getting to know better but we are too afraid to ask her out. We might be unsure of whom she is, what her personality is like, and whether or not we would like to date her and we may need some more time before asking her out. The problem is that we often feel as though we may be making ourselves look and feel silly trying to develop this relationship.

In these cases where we are shy or unsure often it is better to approach the relationship as though you are trying to develop a friendship. This will include meeting them in public places, having fun in groups or simply having casual conversations. This works as long as you are sure you will still be able to see the person in the same place that you have met them.

Problems lurk around the corner when we have a haphazard meeting with someone and there is a good chance we will not meet or see them again. For example, meeting someone every week in class is very different then meeting them at a friend's party. In one case you know you will see them again while in another case you only have one shot.

In those cases where we have multiple chances to talk to the person it is best to simply be very friendly and develop a relationship naturally. This means keep sitting by them, asking them questions, helping them and developing a relationship until the both of you are comfortable asking each other out.

When it is a one time meeting you will have to use the limited time you have to make a strong impression. If that time is two hours you will want to spend as much time with them as possible without looking as though you are desperate. Once you have used up all that time then you can ask them out if they want to go out on a date or talk further on the phone.

In most cases you will want to hint that you are interested in talking with them further or taking the relationship further before you actually ask them out. This helps protect your fragile ego from a damaging blow. As you hint they will either respond positively or respond negatively to you and you now know what you need to do.