Making a Long Distance Relationship Work

Some people believe that long distance relationships don't work out, while some do. The fact is, some of them do end up successful, and some don't. But isn't that the case with love in the first place, anyway? Just because it's long distance, doesn't mean that it has to fail. I know lots of people who have been able to maintain a good relationship and they live far away from each other. If you are ever in one, or if you are in one now, here are some tips to make your chances of success better.

1. Write handwritten letters. Do this at least once a month. It is a known fact that when a couple writes each other handwritten letters, they are twice more likely to last.

2. Communicate. Talk on the phone to each other every night, write ongoing e-mails, and chat on IM on a daily basis.

3. Be normal. Don't constantly whine and whimper that he/she is not there. An occasional, "I miss you and I wish you were here," is okay but don't make a bad habit of it. That is likely to bring the mood of both of you down if you are constantly reminded of your distance and how it stinks. Talk to them the same as you did when you lived in the same city.

4. If you can, try to stay in sync. For example, if you both like a certain TV show, plan to both watch it, and then you can talk about it on your phone conversation. When you do that, it's like you are sharing the experience with them.

5. Surprise them! Just because you two are farther apart, doesn't mean the surprises and magic has to end. Spontaneously call them when they least expect it just to tell them you love them, make them a little love webpage and send them the URL. Buy them a small gift and send it in the mail to say that you were thinking of them. If possible, arrange for a visit. But make sure you can afford it.

There are probably more I can think of, but those are the main ones. Hope they help, and if you need any more, or want to add any, just put it in a reply.