Managing "Mommy Guilt"

As a working mother I often find myself feeling guilty for a lot of things. From being away 12 hours a day at work and not being at home with my son, to being exhausted when I do get home, mommy guilt is a constant vicious cycle.

Mommy guilt is natural, and is to be expected for mothers that work out of the home. However, it doesn't have to be so overwhelming. There are certain steps you can take to help you overcome mommy guilt and make the
balancing act much less stressful.

I have found these steps to be beneficial in my own struggle with mommy guilt.

Set time aside for family. Even if it is just to watch a movie when you get home from work prior to bedtime, your child(ren) will be appreciative of the "together" time.

If you are able to adjust your schedule, try to incorporate their "awake" time. At one point I would find myself leaving so early that my son would still be asleep when I left for work, and coming home after he was asleep. This tore my heart out and mommy guilt had gotten unbearable. I began scheduling myself so that I could come in later giving me the opportunity to make my son breakfast and spend some time before having to leave for the rest of the day.

Little things count. Leaving notes for backpacks or lunchboxes lets your children know that you are thinking of them.

Days off are a great opportunity to reconnect. Utilize your days off by spending time with your children. Despite the fact that you may have household chores that require your attention as well, make it a family thing! Though chores may not be as exciting as a day out, you are spending time with each other. Working together while allowing you to get caught up quicker, will also allow the family free time for say a picnic, a walk, or even a play date at home.

Being away from home is not the only type of mommy guilt. Mommy guilt can stem from purchasing items for yourself, taking time away, or even being thankful for your time out of the home. To be successful in overcoming mommy guilt we as mothers need to take that time to pamper ourselves. To be the best mothers we can be we need that "me" time. Mothering takes sacrifice, and the ability to give almost endlessly. Taking time for ourselves allows us to regroup and be the best mommies we can be.

Online support groups for working mothers are also a great way to vent, and interact with like minds.

Again, mommy guilt is natural and can be managed. Keep a positive frame of mind, and remind yourself of these tips and you should soon see a decrease in your mommy guilt.