Marriage : an Important Factor for Parents?

In today's context it is not a forehead twitching issue when we start a conversation about single parent family. The world has progressed that much. However, is this healthy? Why is it that a couple is afraid to take the vows of being together for a lifetime if they are so much in love!

One reason is the freedom factor. The popular belief amongst the teens and those in their 20s and 30s is that once you are married you are imprisoned. There is no more late nights, no more flirting, no more "I" and no more LOVE once you are married. Well, if you believe so, you need not think about a child.

What is a child? A child is a responsibility! A child is a treasure! A child is feeling! What kind of life would you want to give such a child who comes with so much? Hence, It is very important that couples have a very clear vision why they want to have a child.

Once a child comes into the equation, like it or not, the life changes. You will be left wondering where all your time went. You will discover that your sweet sleep has disappeared, at least till you child finds out that day is day and night is night. You will handling things such as soiled diapers and baby food. You will find yourself hardly having the time to breathe! This continues till you child has grown up.

If you are not married, the walk-out factor is very real in your relationship. Since the commitment is missing (even if you think you are committed, you have the freedom to rethink and move on without any hesitation), there is not permanency. I admit that even marriage dies not provide the commitment. However, marriage is sacred and those who are not able to respect the vows can forget about it. That is why marriage counseling is becoming so important and popular nowadays. It is necessary that you realize that what you are getting into is serious relationship, till death do us part.

In Islam, a woman who is divorced or if her husband died is said to stay home and away from men for a period of 3 months; mainly in worship to Allah and praying for her husband. This is not to be seen as treating the female population in a demeaning way. The main reason for this confinement is to ensure that she is able to know, if she is pregnant, who the father of her child is. It is unhealthy for a mother and the child not to know who the real father is.

Imagine the state of being unmarried. You may not be a person who sleeps around. However, to save you the trouble, practice virginity till you get married. You may take your life lightly. However, once a child come into picture you have certain responsibility towards the child. You are doing a grave injustice to a life should you not be able to provide a proper identification, if not anything.

Hence, it is important that parents marry before children are born.I advocate that a child requires the love of both parents.