Marriage is Never Equal

Through life people have always considered marriage fifty fifty, married people have always struggled with the truth of this statement. Marriage and being equal in terms of putting in work for the marriage to survive is not always an even process. From being a King to being the man that picks up the trash, marriage is always going to require one person to make a sacrifice at some time in the relationship and some times often. The church considers marriage sacred, and the law considers marriage that of a contract between two parties. Those outside of the marriage circle consider marriage an option, but at a later much later time in their lives. Why is marriage not equal? That is a question we will address.

First, let's start with the church and the folks that consider it sacred. Two people coming together in the presence of God to swear your love for one another and for God. That's how most marriages start off until they find out that the one they are marrying doesn't really follow the principles of God. Can hanging in the club and display your self as a public drunk be considered following God. One person in the relationship will get tired of the party scene, kids will be born, and someone will look at these events as an eye awakening into how life should be. That's when the fifty fifty principle goes out the window, one of the two will pull back and require the other to pull more weight. How about performing duties in the church, someone will be left holding more of the family duties and that will put a strain on things if that becomes a problem. Once the couple have kids the equal theory goes out the window, and if there is a couple out there that say they give equal at all times they are not going to last long, because one of them is slacking and not giving their all.

Second, there is the couple that don't go to church but get married in one. Wow the process of getting married for this couple is already going down the drain, because they are putting on a facade about being together in Gods name. That couple should have just went to the justice of peace and saved the money. That relationship is not equal because one believes in the church theory on marriage and the other is just doing it to satisfy the other. See the two will soon part ways before the ink dries on the license, they are already living a separate life, even thou they stopped to get married they are living a lie, and will be living in a hard place that will never reach a equal settling.

The third couple is the one that went to the justice of he piece and they have an understanding of relationships are not equal but they are willing to work at getting to that point together. Their marriage will last and grow as time moves on, they both are seeking a better life and will eventually find spirituality together or alone. One is good for the other and vice versa. This couple will struggle yet will make ends meet. Their idea of equal is sharing a hotdog and neither one biting off more than the other.

Being in a relationship whether it's a marriage, with God, or just friends, its never going to be equal. God never has an equal relationship with us because we are always sinning and looking out for our own best interest. Marriage will never be equal in the sense that we all lack sometimes and fall short other times and need the other one to pick up the slack for us until we get our stuff together. A friendship is never suppose to be equal because we are always jumping ahead of each other, pull each other up, and help one another out of complicated situations. Being equal means giving more at times and less other times if life were that simple if only we could give fifty percent at all times we would never be tired and never be confused at other times. So stay uneven, give more because you never know when the scale will shift away from you and you might just need someone else to pull your weight.