Marriage and Role Reversal
For Better or for Worse?
Some women do like the fact that their husbands take the children to school, do laundry and cook dinner. With more women earning as much, and sometimes more than men, some families benefit from the higher-paid wife dashing out to the office each morning, while the husband keeps the home and children in tact. This is the age of women stepping up and showing they have just as much right working a 9 to 5 in Corporate America as their male counterparts. The truth of the matter is that not all females are happy playing Suzie Homemaker.
For centuries females have taken on the responsibility of keeping the household chores and children attended to. Women have been thought of as the backbone of the home, and often gave up their own dreams to support their husband's need to provide for his family. Many women have earned college degrees, but those soon became another frame hanging on the den wall, because the couple felt that someone should stay home and raise the children. More often than not, women freely volunteer to give up their place in the workforce to stand behind their husband. Society has already marked his place in the world, so some women feel it's their duty to step aside and allow him to provide, whether or not he will bring home the higher income.
The other side of the coin is that over time, some of these wives begin to feel ashamed of their husbands. They see his masculinity fading with each pot roast he makes. This feeling that the husband is less than masculine, can render him not as sexually appealing, and can drive a wedge between a married couple. Lack of intimacy plays a big part in the failure of many marriages.
When discussing their husbands over lunch hour lattes, aplha wives sometimes lie about what their husband does for a living. They might say he works from home so that he can look after the children, when in fact, he's knee deep in dirty diapers and trying to catch a glimpse of the soccer game on ESPN between loads of laundry.
The stigma that a man's "place" is to be the driving force behind the family's finances can take its toll on the husband that steps back to allow his wife to work. Sometimes beta males feel as if they aren't doing their part, even though they are racing all over town with grocery shopping, ballet recitals, and PTA meetings. Many of these men don't complain, and allow their wife to live her corporate dream. Over time, he may grow unhappy with being Mr. Mom, but he stands behind his wife, and tries to make the best of it. Without communicating to his wife how he feels, the marriage could suffer.
Some wives of beta males feel as though they are the "man" in the relationship, and their dreams of having a husband with Prince Charming qualities can fade over time. They don't realize until after they give their seal of approval for him to stay home, that their husband doesn't make them feel like he is taking care of them, and the role reversal hits a snag when the alpha wife no longer has the pride in her husband she once did, and could later be the cause of a divorce.
Role reversal works for some families, and for others it marks the beginning of the end. Not thinking things through, some ideas seem almost genius at their conception, but later turn out to be duds. Many families don't want day care centers to raise their children, so couples struggle for solutions, which sometimes means one of them will have to put their career on hold. Communicating and working together, a marriage can overcome obstacles associated with role reversal, and remain a strong, even if society dictates that a man should wear an apron and make a better pie than his grandmother.
Published by Katie Just
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11 Comments
Post a CommentThe nineteenth century belief Males should be strong heavily adversely affects Males from an early age onward in three large areas.
The first area of concern: society's belief, Males should be strong allows much aggression toward Males (differences as early as nine months) "Psychology of Sex Differences". Here I am referring to more commanding more abrupt, harsh words, less positive eye-contact, more intimidating eye-contact, more physical treatment and more harsh physical treatment. From this aggression this creates much higher average stress that makes learning information age skills much more difficult. The lower the socioeconomic bracket the more amplified the stress and so more allowed aggression toward those Males. The increased aggression Males receive, creates four bad things for Males academically, mentally, emotionally, and socially: 1. It creates higher average layers of mental frictions (redefined from higher average stress) which inhibit thinking, learning
I have given a false name here. I love to be the wife once in a while so that my actual wife is the "husband". I love to wear female clothes, false breast, make up et al and surrender to my "husband". I love to be treated as a true female when my wife dresses as a man takes me by force. I love to be kissed, nibbled and pinched during the sex act. I want my "husband" ( actual wife) to suc my lips and my nipples and nipples and completely dominate me in bed, thereby pampering my feminine side once in a while. My main menu is normal sex.
Really U R lucky enough. whether you live like female dresses ?
Really U R lucky enough. whether you live like female dresses ?
I now understand why my Mrs left me a not to check out this site. It is our marriage to a "T". I am the male wife as she calls me and she is the husband. Sometimes I am referred to as her Domestic support or Home front manager. I do get to run business errands for her sometimes, which is a welcome break in my normal routine. I had to learn that the one with the gold rules. Mrs helped learn this very quikly. The neighbors and all relatives are aware of who is who in our marriage.
Fine article and comments. But nobody mentioned the wonderful sexual fulfillment achieved when a "male wife" surrenders to his "female husband." Maybe because they feared getting into borderline pornography. I'll be careful of that. Toni and I had been married for 2 months and I thought the traditional "missionary position" satisfied both of us. Then one night she told me that she had read about how a woman on top can control her partner's penis rubbing her clitoris and G-spot to give her more intense multiple orgasms. I had no objection to that, and she mounted me like an expert horsewoman - with spectacular results! Poised on her knees, she pumped vigorously up and down, then stretched out full-lenth on me, her pelvis gyrating wildly, screaming with ecstacy while I whimpered and squirmed like a bride being deflowered. I don't know how many times she came before bringing me to climax with a triumphant smile. I soon learned that that was only the beginning of our role-reversa
I am a beta male husband. my mrs actually proposed to me. It was very clear that i was to be a "male wife." I earned a very good ssalary, but it was nothing compared to her's and her potential. I entered the marriage with my eyes wide open, but I still learned a lot that I did not contemplate before marriage. Once I learned to accept that the one with the gold makes the rules and ran everything by her before initiating something it became clear sailing. Fact is I am spoiled now and do a good job of spoiling my Mrs..
This article was pointed out to me by my married partner "gene 4/23/07. I could not believe how close this this is to our own life. I had dated a lot of men and was becoming very successful in my career when I met the man who was to become my married partner. I realized he was what I wanted - " a male wife". I struggeled with how to convince him to accepth this role, but I managed it & we have been married for five wonderful years.
My wife made it very plain before we were married that she was established in her career and that she wanted me to stay at home, do the housework, runerrands, plan our meals and do the grocery shopping. She cannot cook never did any domestic work growing up and is dangerous pass the kitchen door. We had some difficulty the first 2 years. But as soon as I accepted that she made all the dcisions and not to do anything outside of my expected routine - all was fine.
That is so true. My mother was a working mom.