Marriage is Special and Sacred

It's a sad fact that in today's society over half of marriages end in divorce. What ever happened to "till death do us part"?I think that today there are three main reasons that people are so quick to get a divorce which I would like to go into a little bit if I may.

Reason one in my opinion people rush into marriage. Us young people fall in love as soon as someone of the opposite sex says those magic words "I Love You" and like that we re married pregnant and divorced in one breathe. I truly think that at least 45% of people who get married don't even truly understand real, unconditional and pure love. It is easy to get wrapped up in a relationship when your young, but we need to slow down. Kids are so ready to grow up and start a family. It is our job as parents to teach kids what love is and that patience is an important part of life and love.

Kids are having sex at 13 yrs. old! This is a problem that we can't fix if what we are teaching these same kids is that its ok to have sex before marriage and its ok to get a divorce if the first man you pick isn't the right choice. These kids see how easy it is to have a baby and hey if you can't handle it give it away. They see their parents separate or fight and they think that is how it should be. If we took our time and waited for sex and marriage then perhaps we would meet that special person that we can spend the rest of our lives with.

Reason number two in my opinion is everyone has forgotten to work out their problems. Its so much easier for us to give up than it is for us to sit down and talk. Are we just lazy or is this what we learned from our parents and what we are now teaching our kids? We all just seem so quick to give up we forget all about "For better or worse" and jump right to I want a divorce. If we sat down and talked about problems and came up with ways as a couple to fix them would there be less divorce? Would our children see what a true marriage is all about? Perhaps, but my guess is not many couples will try.

Finally, the third and final reason that I think marriagess today fail so quickly, is a lack of trust and respect for each other. The younger we are the more easily it seems that we get jealous. I know a young couple they are not married yet but they are having a child. As if that is not bad enough he is a very jealous and controlling guy. I think that one reason young people have these qualities is that they grow up to fast to experience life. No one today seems to trust their partners. If they do trust their partner then the partner doesn't have the respect to honor the relationship and has an affair! It just seems like a vicious cycle with no sign of ending but only getting worse.

Don't get me wrong, I know that there are some people that do actually try to save their marriages. I also believe that in some cases you should get a divorce for example if you are in an abusive relationship. If you think about it though if we didn't rush we would learn that this person was not the right one before it got to that. These are just my opinions but I really hope that at least one person reads this and it helps them to slow down a bit.