Marriage Tips from a Sex Therapist

Therapists often know more than we do about our lives. Fortunately, we have a sex therapist sharing marriage secrets from his married, male clients. Learn these seven marriage tips for a better marriage.

Marriage Tip #1: Men Don't Share Their Feelings

Ian Kerner, the therapist, asks men to tell their wives what they share with him. However, it rarely happens. Let's assume this is true. What would it hurt to try some of these marriage tips and see what happens? If marriage issues are worked out, a better marriage is always good.

Marriage Tip #2: Men Like to Cuddle

Men generally prefer to cuddle after sex. Quite often, they hope for a second round but not always. And dads often miss the emotional connection once kids are in the family. Mom is the center of attention so he has to share. Men feel something always gets between you. Cuddling reminds him you care.

Marriage Tip #3: Take Charge in Bed

Men usually initiate and face rejection. They often get the feeling it's a chore to you. It begins to feel like a responsibility. The last thing some dads need is more responsibility. When dads look at their children, they see college tuition, art lessons and a future of of years of working at a job. So, spice things up. Even if bashful, tell your husband about sexual fantasies. Role playing to let him know you're ready is welcome too.

Marriage Tip #4: I'm Tired of Date Night

Anything that falls into routine loses charm. This is normal with families and jobs so think about spontaneity. Call in sick and go to lunch during the day. Or don't plan date night, just see what happens. Use dating as an escape for both of you.

Marriage Tip #5: I Like Guy Night

Just like you enjoy time with your girlfriends, husbands like to be with guys. They like to blow off steam together. And, absence makes the heart grow fonder. So start a separate date night when both of you go with your friends. You will be glad to see each other when it's over.

Marriage Tip #6: You Still Look Hot

You may think you need to wear that new dress and primp before you look hot. But, when you bent over to put dishes in the dishwasher, your husband was thinking about your awesome butt. Husbands are still guys and think about sex at least one hundred times a day.

Marriage Tip #7: It Turns Me On That You're the Mother of My Child

Sex is about self-esteem, so what's more sexy than to look at you and the kids and think, "Holy crap, I did it! I'm the husband and I'm the dad. You turned us from a boy to a dad. " Most husbands didn't think it would happen. Whenever dads feel proud and manly about kids and family, they never forget it's you who did this with them.

Guys may not be able to share marriage secrets but what fun you can have now that you know. These marriage tips help resolve marriage issues for better marriages.

Click here to read a therapist's tips for managing stress.

Source:
http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/03/20/p.husband.wants.besides.sex/index.html

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