Married Couples Sleeping Apart
There's now the new trend of breaking the master bedroom suite into two separate sleeping rooms. This option allows couples to be separate by choice but not completely apart, as they're able to come together whenever they'd like. When deciding how to split up the master suite, the couples can be as creative or simplistic as they want. Maybe two separate beds is enough for some, while another couple decides to turn the sitting area into a snoring room and furnish it with a daybed instead of a couch or love seat. Many women have shown interest in this because they can't stand to hear their husband's snoring (or maybe some husbands can't stand to hear their wives snoring).
Some couples don't have a problem with each other's nighttime noises, but just have a different preference for what type of mattress to sleep on. If this is a problem for you, there are some options available. You can go the "I Love Lucy" route and push two twin size beds together; or you can get a bit more modern and invest in a sleep number bed. This type of bed allows each person to adjust their side of the bed to their preferred number of firmness or softness. The sleep number bed is also good for people who may suffer from back or neck problems while sleeping.
When coming home weary from your daily commutes and stressors, I'm sure a good night's sleep would be greatly appreciated. For some this good night's sleep may consist of the usual "Good night, honey" before heading off to separate bedrooms. Just because a couple prefers to sleep apart doesn't mean they love each other any less. Maybe space is preventing you from dividing the master bedroom and in that case two separate sleeping rooms could just work for you. For those who love decorating and have a nice, spacious master bedroom, you can rearrange your sleeping area in any way you see fit. There's no right or wrong way to spice up your home decor. People have been redecorating homes for years, adding a room here, retiling a floor there. The options are limitless.
Some couples may worry about what their families will say about them sleeping apart. Really what goes on in a couples' home shouldn't be anyone else's concern, especially when it's pertaining to how they sleep. Sleeping apart can actually bring some couples closer together. After a good night's sleep you're usually in a good mood and you'll wake up well rested rather than grumpy and agitated from being kept awake half the night. Imagine being able to roll over and not bump into your sleeping partner, or snuggling together under your blanket on a cold night with a mattress that suits both of your needs. Regardless of whether you decide to stay in the same bedroom or get separate rooms, be sure you both get a good night's sleep. It may be fun to come into your partner's bedroom one night and surprise them. I'm sure your presence would be greatly appreciated...as long as you take your snoring back to your own sleeping area the next night.
Published by Nico Riley
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10 Comments
Post a CommentI think iy's terrible I would never want to sleep apart from my husband However I can understang when there may be a health problem other wise i would say this is a terrible idea. Maybe we should ask Doug and Carrie. It's not the norm in my opinion it could make couples grow apaet and not closer but I guess the people who do this will justify it anyway they can
Great post. I find the difficulties and choices made by couples in their sleeping habits to be fascinating. I'd love to read more on this topic.
Here's a recent article I particularly enjoyed on couples' sleeping arrangements: http://burisonthecouch.wordpress.com/2009/11/24/zzzzzzzz/
I'd love to see more. Thanks!
My husband and I have been married for over a year now and have been sleeping in the same bed until recently. Our sleeping arrangements changed when he switched from working 11-7 to the traditional 9-5 and now goes to bed before me. Now I am unable to sleep in the same bed as him because he snores so loud. I really enjoyed this article and all of the other comments because you aren't made to feel like you're doing anything wrong by not sleeping with your partner. I love my husband and sleeping apart prevents me getting mad at him for keeping me up all night.
This is something me and my husbnd of 4 years just started doing, we are in our early twenties. I wish it was due to snoring, health, or sleeping patterns. Unfornately I think we may have some issues.
My husband and I have been sleeping in separate bedrooms for the better part of two years now. It's mostly due to snoring, teeth grinding, and different schedules that disrupt my light sleeping tendencies. It's been tough, but not as tough as both of us suffering from sleep deprivation. They key is to make up for the loss of closeness in other ways.
I realize that there are many couples who have special sleeping arrangements. Thanks for all of your comments, both those who agree and disagree.
My husband and I have health problems which make our sleeping needs very different. Also, I think we need our private space. So when we sleep to gether, it is always special and intimate. For us, it enhances our relationship. Thanks for letting me know we are not the only couple like this.
I find the idea sad... I can't imagine sleeping in separate rooms, and I've been married for 32 years. I guess each to his own.
I know that couples sleep in separate rooms for various reasons. Personally I do not like the idea.
I agree..also, my husband has been able to turn his room into a personal study/playstation area, while mine is full of photos and books. We love the arrangement, and since he's an early riser and I go to bed very late, neither of us loses sleep when the other gets up or comes to bed. We can "visit" any time we want, since our rooms are 10 feet apart..but then again, we've been married a long time and we are both secure in our feelings for each other. When we were younger, we slept together because it was "the norm". Thanks for the good read.