Marrying a Military Person? Consider This
Work Schedule
Your military wife or husband is on a salary. He or she will work their regular hours an in addition have "duty" Duty is like overtime but you don't get any extra money. The military operates on a twenty four hour a day, seven day a week, three hundred and sixty five day a year schedule. Forty hour weeks on a consistent basis do not exist.
Duty Stations
Your spouse is currently stationed in San Diego for example. You, your spouse, and your children live in base housing or in a home just outside the military base. Your kids go to school in the area, and you and your kids have plenty of friends in the area. Don't get too attached to the area or the people in it. Inform your children to do the same. This is because in a few years, after you're all comfy and settled in, your spouse's duty station is going to be changed. Your spouse, you, and the kids are all going to be moving. Where? That could be anywhere. Florida, California, Texas, Japan, Germany, or anywhere your spouse is needed. Can you and the kids handle that? You all may even have to learn a new language.
Deployments
Unless you've been living under a rock in the wilderness, you know that there is a war going on. If your spouse is active duty or in the reserves, it is likely that he or she will be deployed to Iraq or Afghanistan or on a ship. You and the children will be left at home to worry and worry about your spouse.
What You Get
Being married to a military person has it's advantages. Free or very low cost housing. Free and unlimited prescriptions and all health care for your spouse, you, and your children that you and your spouse have together. And those are just a few of the advantages. But what you have to ask yourself is this. Are the advantages worth the obvious strains on a marriage that are present when married to a military member? Good luck
Published by Karl Withakay
Karl is a full time 43 y/o Singer/guitarist/songwriter. He is also a self proclaimed computer geek. He builds, fixes and modifies computers. He is a US Navy, Gulf War Vet. and has worked as a CNA, a Parame... View profile
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Post a CommentYou are so right about consistent forty weeks being nonexistent! It's a good thing my husband is worth it :o)