Masturbation: The Safest Safe Sex

Masturbation is quite often perceived as shameful, pathetic and even sociopathic behavior. Or, more accurately, MIS-perceived. Why shouldn't pleasing one's self be elevated to the status of eating well or creating a budget that will provide you with lifelong benefits? It is, in fact, one of the best possible investments into yourself you can make!

Masturbation is, for one thing, something you can do alone, without feeling lonely. You can fantasize about that hunky guy across the street, and you don't even have to worry about his wife, or boyfriend. Afterall, he will never know you orgasm to thoughts of him slowing rubbing your back and kissing your neck in that tender spot right below your right earlobe.

Masturbation is the ultimate in safe sex! No pregnancy woes, no mysterious 15-syllable diseases, and no snoring guy waking up wanting breakfast and the breakfast is you (with all the bed-hair, morning breath and rush to get ready for work). You can 'have sex' with a different partner ten times a day if you want to (and, have time for that many solo explorations).

Another great benefit we often discount about masturbation is getting to know your own body and its wonderful, varied responses to physical and mental stimuli! A very useful tool in any relationship, isn't it? You can offer any future or current partner learned knowledge about your body and how to elicit the highest responses from you. Who knows better about YOUR body than you? I say, nobody should.

Relax and explore your body. Physical sexual response is not limited to your genitalia. Try out different stimuli. A soft pinch, a slow caress, or a thumping, rocking 'Big O', any exploration is research in its finest form.

Make Your Masturbation Research a Joy:

Set the Scene - A quiet atmosphere may be essential for your self-introduction to self-pleasing. Lock the door, so you won't be interrupted or distracted. Plump up the pillows, light the candles, maybe even pop in an Enya CD (or other calming erotic music), and have visual aids nearby (or in your head).

NOTE : For the Masturbation Timid, a warm bath is a good place to begin. You are already used to touching your body in the bath, why not use that comfortable occasion to explore a bit more?

Men seem to have an easier time learning to masturbate than women, in general, and this could be because their anatomy is so much more easily available, not to mention that they are in physical contact with their external genitalia at least several times a day. Or, it could be because throughout history, most cultures have made female masturbation somewhat of a taboo, while male masturbation has been more of a 'boys will be boys' kind of thing. Well, welcome to the new millennium, ladies!

Masturbation aids, sometimes also known as sex toys, come in such a huge variety that almost everyone can find something to get their juices flowing - literally! From penis stand-ins to vagina-in-a-box, from G spot stimulators (for both men and women!) to anal beads, the choices are innumerable! And, you don't even have to walk into any adult store to buy them. Online there are thousands of terrific sex toy shops (and more than a few horrid ones, too). Most online stores have hardcopy catalogs, available either for a small price or for free. And, don't worry about Mrs. Nosyneighbor, the brown paper wrappers you always heard about are almost always a real thing, in the adult sex toy business.

A few of my favorite sex toy stores are:

http://sextoyscheap.loveslife.com - a little of everything!

http://www.tootimid.com - toys, tools and great information!

http://www.pinkspotz.com - Their motto is 'a hip and groovy place to buy stuff for your body' and it IS!

http://www.babeland.com - A great toy and more store, run by women who know their stuff and are happy to share the knowledge, and the fun!

So, I recommend some non-toy exploration to start with. Learn about your body. Find out what masturbation techniques work for you. Find out what doesn't turn you on. Order a sex toy or a dozen sextoys, and practice your newfound knowledge of your body, your mind and your most delicious desires! Masturbation is the safest sex practice, and buying one ticket to paradise is much easier than having to lug along a partner. Besides, masturbation helps you make yourself a terrific partner when you do decide to share your sexual adventures with another person. Explore your mind and desires with masturbation, and share that intimate knowledge when you do decide to take a partner on your masturbation adventure.