Matchmaking Tips: Playing Cupid Instead of Stupid

Even with all of the new dating sites, services and personal ads, most of us at some point in time find ourselves playing cupid. Not that there is anything wrong with it. A mutual friend initially introduced many couples that make it to the altar. Playing cupid is nothing new. However, if done incorrectly, you could potentially alienate two good friends. So, consider a few things before you become the "Dr. Phil" of your circle.

Be honest with both friends and be sure to mention any possible deal breakers. Normally when people are being matched they always learn something about the other person that they wished they had learned before the date. Don't screw with your friends. You wouldn't want to hook up an asthmatic with a smoker, especially without letting them know. It is important that both sides are aware of what they are getting into. A deal breaker is anything that may cause someone to change his or her minds about meeting the other person. They can include, but are not limited too criminal records, children, jealous exes, or diseases. You should also prepare your friends for differing religions, nationalities, and/or political views. These are things that are not necessarily deal breakers; yet, still not the type of information that should be a surprise. This way they can make an informed decision about meeting the other person, and no one is mad at you. The drawback to being honest is giving too much information. Some things people should have the opportunity of explaining themselves. Situations like why their last relationship did not work out; or how they lost a job.

Show each friend a picture of the other, if they have never met, or don't remember meeting. Regardless of how wonderful your friends may be, everyone has their preferences. Different people are attracted to and by a variety of looks. To prevent anyone from having their feelings hurt, show both friends a recent picture of the other. Allowing two people to meet based on your descriptions could be disastrous. We have a tendency of building our friends up more than we should. Some matchmakers even choose to omit parts of the description to prevent one person from baking out of it. The most common example is trying not to mention that one person is over weight.

Try to reduce the pressure and anxiety that is usually associated with blind dates. Depending on their feel of comfort you may even arrange a double or group date for their first meeting. Groups help squash the awkward silence that can take over a first date. By being there you can help keep the conversation going by pointing out things that they have in common, as well as, desirable qualities. If they choose to meet alone, suggest a place that is quiet and relaxing. Bookstores, coffee shops, and popular parks are all nice places to talk and will allow them to get to know each other. Suggest places that will have other people around for safety and comfort. Just because they are both your friends, doesn't mean they feel comfortable with each other.

The most important thing to remember is that successful matches are made with two willing and single individuals. So, be sure to give each friend enough information and opportunity to back out if they start to have second thoughts. You don't want to lose two good friends over one bad date.