Melissa and Tony Wescott Want an Adoption Return

On, December 21, 2009, "ABC Television News," reported a startling story about adoptive parents, Melissa and Tony Wescott. Melissa and Tony Wescott, adopted a nine year old boy from the foster home system in Oklahoma, and now desire to return him to the foster home system due to severe emotional and behavioral problems the child allegedly suffers with. They're fearful of their lives because of allegedly violent behaviors from their adoptive son. Adoption return, is this actually necessary? Their adoptive son has resided in a psychiatric facility for the past year and now will be released due to a medical team reporting he's no longer a danger to himself or others.

Melissa and Tony Wescott allege their eleven year old adoptive son collected knifes and lighters under his mattress, and wrote letters about wanting to harm or kill them. Now in fear of their lives from their eleven year old adoptive son, they want to return him to the foster home system, but report they can't due to financial difficulty. In Oklahoma an adoption can be dissolved, but it is costly to file court documents and prove the adoption is an unsuccessful one and harmful to both parties involved.

Are Melissa and Tony Wescott just a case of unsatisfied cruel parents because they want to return and give up on their adoptive son because he doesn't fit their ideal image of a good son? Or is this adoptive son truly too disturbed and dangerous to live in a home environment? Why is this child being released from a psychiatric facility if he's still believed to be a danger to his adoptive parents? And why weren't Melissa and Tony fully informed about their adopted son's past history before they followed through with the adoption two years ago?

Adoption return. Is it that Melissa and Tony Wescott's adoptive son broken in their eyes and therefore they no longer desire to be adoptive parents? Do adoptive parents have the right to have a guarantee expecting their adoptive child will be mentally and physically sound after adoption proceedings are completed? Do adoptive parents have the right to expect an angelic child, one that never gives a moment of trouble, or the adoption can be annulled? If the adoptive child doesn't follow the proper standards adoptive parents set, can there be such thing as, adoption return? A return policy for a child sounds so barbaric. Adoption return, sounds like a child's being given up on. What harm does returning an adoptive child back into the system do? To feel unwanted because of your behavior or an adoptive parent's incapability's can only be disastrous.

I don't know the full extent of what Melissa and Tony Wescott have endured with their adoptive son? I can't imagine being so fearful of a child that you've made the decision to want to annul an adoption? Shouldn't adoptive parents be treated the same as birth parents? The idea of being able to return a child because you're an adoptive parent doesn't sit right with me. As a parent of a child who has an emotional disorder, I've run through a gamut of emotions. I've felt ashamed when I believed I couldn't endure any more hardships in raising a disabled child, but I never truly thought of giving up. As a parent it was my duty to love and fight for the best help my child could have to have him exist in society.

I believe Melissa and Tony Wescott's adoptive son has a fairly good chance in the future of finding out about his adoptive parent's feelings towards him, due to their television interviews. What could this possibly do to his mind set? Living in a home knowing his adoptive parents are fearful towards him won't set up a good situation. Being fearful of their adoptive child can't place the Wescotts in a positive parenting role. I wonder if Melissa and Tony Wescott have sought help to parent their adoptive disturbed child. It seems if their adoptive child has been in a psychiatric facility for the past year assistance and treatment has been offered. There is treatment and assistance out there if you're a dedicated parent. Parental love gives you the strength to battle rearing a child with difficulties.

I can't really condemn Melissa and Tony Wescott's actions as adoptive parents because I haven't walked in their shoes. The subject of, adoption return and the parental role of adoptive parents will be discussed further because of this unfortunate situation. A warrenty plan for adoption sounds barbaric.

There are so many available adoptive children and foster home children, waiting for homes. These children have experienced so many traumas in their lives and desire a loving home with adoptive parents willing to open their arms and hearts. They need adoptive parents who are willing to go the long haul being parents to children who've experienced too much of life's pain.

I hope Melissa and Tony Wescott as adoptive parents find a solution to handle the problems their adoptive son's dealing with. Hopefully it'll be a solution that'll prevent anyone from any further physical or mental harm. Adoption and returning an adoptive child back into the system are tough but important subjects that need to be discussed.

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