Men My Age Look like My Dad
So, back to the problem of most men my age looking old enough to be my Dad. Now, please understand, in general, looks are not high on my list of priorities when looking for a man to date. But, there is a difference between looks being important and having and not having an attraction to older men. Now, these men in reality are not older, they just look like they are. That's where the problem lies.
No matter how much we say it doesn't matter, at least some physical attraction is needed in an intimate relationship. So, where does that leave me? I'm not sure. All I know is, it's very difficult for me to be attracted to a man that looks like he should be hanging out with my Dad. Have I just aged well, and others have not? That seems to be the case here. It shocks me sometimes that men even several years younger than me look so much older. I have nothing against older men, or men that look older, It just feels strange, and I don't seem to have an attraction to them.
Now, you are probably saying, this is just like older men who want young women. Not so, I would prefer men my own age, because we grew up with a similar history and experiences,. But, if most people are being honest, not to many want to be with a man or woman that physically reminds them of their Mom or Dad. It has nothing to do with being beautiful, handsome, thin, large, or whatever. It's just psychologically and emotionally weird, at least to me, to be attracted to someone who looks old enough to be my Dad. In the same token, I don't want to be with anyone that's young enough to look like my son either.
So, in the end when it is all is said and done, I do think looks matter, at least to the point of how comfortable we are with how that person's looks make us feel. After all, if that wasn't true we could all be the same physically, like cookie cutter images, and it wouldn't matter to anyone!
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I am a former child & family counselor, and now retired. I am proud to be a U.S Air Force Vietnam Era Veteran. I enjoy writing articles on Relationships, Dating, Marriage, Parenting and much more! I hope you... View profile
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Post a Commentpeople that say that generally expect people to overlook physical appearance..anyone who says that they totally overlook physical appearance when dating or choosing a mate is a liar.if i present to any 30 year old woman two subjects...a 30 year old man and a 75 year old man and say which would you prefer to date,you can bet your bum she's not going to pick the 75 year old...it's called apperance ladies and gents..this overlook appearance thing is said by people who have some kind of weird over sensitivity to preference
i'm 56 and easily pass for being in my mid 30's or possibally early 40.my friends my age look way older than me.i also am attracted only to younger people.also,i grew up hanging around people yoyunger than myself.it's something i can't help.i'm just attracted to younger women.men my age remind me of the fathers myfriends in high school had.even though i'm that same age now.my interests are also younger being that i have always hung with a younger crowd.i prefer riding the rides at theme parks than to just stroll down the midway or through the park looking at stuff.i also am into current music as well as any older stuff./i find it difficult making friends of lately though,for these reasons./too bad we don't live closer together.
Great read- my fiance is 13 years older than me so he actually looks old enough to be my dad (kind of) but I actually DO have a thing for older men, so it's all good. However, one would have to wonder why someone your own age would look so old? People confuse my younger sister for being my mom! I think it's how you care for yourself...
I kinda agree with you on this, I think it may be in how they took care of their health. Still married 49 years and I see attractive men and women that are my age, however many do look older, so you must want to consider what their lifestyle has been.
Hi Jenny: I think you missed the point of my article. I think there are some very attractive older men, I am just not physically attracted to them. So, it not that they are not beautiful inside and out, it's just that I personally don't feel attracted to them, as they seem like a father figure to me, rather than a love interest. Thanks for your comment!
Very interesting. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.