Men: Are You Arrogant, Clueless, or Just Plain Faithful?
Are you arrogant? Are men so arrogant that they think just because a woman talks to them just to be friendly, that they all want them? Do they think they are God's gift to women, and there is NO other possibility on the face of the earth why these women may be talking to them? I have had male friends since I was 5 years old. To me a friend is a friend. Therefore it is very natural for me to talk to a man, just to be friendly. Please don't go there and say I must be giving off 'Special Signals". That is truly not the case, and if you do think that, maybe you are one of the arrogant ones.
Are you clueless? Do you just not truly know where a woman is coming from? Or maybe, you have little understand of how women are? Whatever the case it seems like your clueless. Well, you don't have to be "Clueless" anymore. Let me tell you about women in general (Not All). We women tend to be very nurturing, friendly, caring people. It's how most of us are raised. Not everything has to do with sex, or dating. Yes, we do like to talk, so chances are, we just want to talk, No, most of us are not desperate to have any man that walks the streets. You saw too many of those old movies. We are for the most part, just happy, friendly, open people, who like to talk to other people, no matter the age or gender.
Are you just plain faithful? Are you afraid if you don't clarify your situation form the get-go, the woman might get the wrong idea? Are you just caring loving, faithful men, who are just protecting your relationship? If so, good for you. But, it does make me wonder, if you're that scared that you mention a wife or girlfriend in the first 5 minutes of conversation, whether it fits into the conversation or not, that you are scared you may be tempted. These are all questions I ponder when I talk to a man, and are just trying to be friendly.
So guys, what are the answers? If I don't hear them from you I may never know. Of course no matter what the answers are, I will keep on being friendly to men. You see, although I have been deeply hurt by some unsavory men, I still think men are wonderful. Each man is an individual, and I will treat them as such. I refuse to be bitter, and live my life as such!
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I am a former child & family counselor, and now retired. I am proud to be a U.S Air Force Vietnam Era Veteran. I enjoy writing articles on Relationships, Dating, Marriage, Parenting and much more! I hope you... View profile
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Post a CommentNomadic: I was really just talking about when people have a casual conversation like in the supermarket, bookstore, etc. I'm a freindly peraon and talk to all people male or female, I just don't like to feel like they think I want any thing other than just a conversation.
For men being the ones who usually have to initiate relationships there becomes a conflict involving where things are going in any relationship. You may be friends one day but the next you may be dating. Also when intimate relationships go down the drain and there's no friendship or anything left it's pretty bad. And then there are females out there who enjoy teasing and flirting with guys for fun. It's really annoying to have your emotions played with. If you see a relationship as starting with a friendship then there's a bit of a conflict there to on how things should go. I personally have been in too many of the situations where I know I want to be with someone and they just want to be friends. Guys find that annoying. Especially when things like that usually do change things for the worse. Ie if you say you want to be friends but you don't want to talk then just say so.
I believe sort of like Jody..you have men of all kinds!!
Truthfully, I believe there is a little of all three elements in every man. Hey, at least I'm honest enough to admit it!
Very thought provoking piece, Hannah! I think it may depend on the person, but there's probably men who fall under each category... among othrs.
That old saying from When Hary Met Sally is true. Men and Women just can't be friends. They can be friendly, but they can't be friends, not unless it's in a setting within the context of couples. I know that sounds pessimistic, but that's just the way it is. Men can't help but wonder to themselves "where it's going" and I don't think that's bad...just natural.
I agree Hannah. I am a very friendly person by nature. I love to say something to people just to start a conversation. Doesn't mean that I am interested in the person romantically, just being friendly. Often however, because I am so friendly, I find myself receiving phone calls and letters from males I have spoken to. They think I am interested, so they begin the chase! I am a married woman and have to very strongly state so!
i understand that women are friendly creatures by nature. sometimes though some ladies can send mixed signals. i have had plenty of female friends in my life and i have liked them all in a romantic way. not necessarily wanting to hop in the sack with them. i can tell if i truly like a woman if i want to be friends with her first. women are beautiful creatures. soft, warm, and they smell wonderful. sometimes i wish that women could feel what it is like to be a man sometimes. looking at a beautiful woman is a pleasure that i cant explain. men are visual by nature. built to seek out what they want and get it. i think that is an instinct held over from our wilder days. women feed men's egos because all men want to be that alpha stud that gets the girls. that's why we play sports, get good jobs, do good in school, pretty much everything a healthy heterosexual male does is to get women. when a woman is friendly toward a man it makes him feel good about himself. usually women do