Men Who Are Involved in a Domestic Relationship, Abused by the Women in Their Life

I know a guy who has been with his female partner for about six years and he on a regular basis gets abused by her. She has cut him, punched him in the nose and regularly takes his money and yet he remains.

Women in a domestic abuse relationship is discussed on a regular basis, but what about the abuse women do to men?

According to About domestic violence against men.com, " There are many reasons why we don't know or talk men in a domestic abuse relationship. Because abuse in men is so rare it is hard to get reliable estimates on how often it happens. Also there are many outreach places for women that encourage women to seek help, but there's really nothing for men. The idea and embarrassment, that men can be in a domestic abuse relationship causes men to not to attempt to seek help."

Suppose a man showed up to work on the job Monday with a black eye and scratches. What would you assume, that maybe he was in a fight with another man or was injured while playing sports? If he really told you the truth would you believe him?That is probably what the man is thinking, " why bother who would believe me anyway.?"

When Diedre Lane shot and killed her husband Fred Lane with a 12 gauge pump action shot gun, she reportedly said she was acting in defense and that he abused her. Fred Lane a former linebacker for Carolina Panthers was obviously much bigger in stature than his wife, so it would seem plausible. It was also however reported by some of his team mates that Fred would repeatedly come to work with bruises and scratches on his body and that it was not him doing the abuse but his wife. After serving 8 years for voluntary manslaughter Diedra was released from jail March 3, 2009.

For men or women, domestic violence includes pushing, slapping, hitting, throwing objects, forcing or slamming doors, or striking the other person with an object, using a weapon. Domestic abuse can be mental or emotional. What will effect a man may not be the same as what will effect a woman in a domestic abuse relationship. For some men being called a coward impotent or a failure can have a very different psychological impact than it would on a woman.

In some cases putting a man down in front of other men can be more devastating than physical abuse. Some professionals have observed that mental and emotional abuse can be an area where women are often more "brutal" than men.

According to About Domestic violence against men, "Women who abuse men are frequently alcoholics."

"Women who abuse men have a Borderline Personality disorder. The order is also associated with suicidal behavior, severe mood swings, lying, sexual problems and alcohol abuse."

"Women who are abusive toward men usually have unrealistic expectations and make unrealistic demands on men. These women will typically experience repeated episodes of depression, anxiety, frustration and irritability which they attribute to a man's behavior. In fact their mental and emotional state is the result of their own insecurities, emotional problems, trauma during childhood or even withdrawal from alcohol. They blame the man instead of owning up to their own problems."

When a woman becomes frustrated and expresses how she feels and she feels that he isn't reacting the way she wants or maybe shuts down or walks away. She in turn becomes loud, maybe saying negative things in front of children, daring him to hit her, threatening him by saying she'll call the police. He may get angry and try to express how he feels, she in return doesn't hear him. Frustrated he walks away, she in turns gets angry, starts yelling negative things and strike him repeatedly. Gentlemen if you are in a domestic abuse relationship with a woman, does this sound familiar to you? If so get help.

Why do men stay in a violent relationship, some reasons the same as why women remain in the relationship:

The children: they are afraid to leave the woman alone with their children. The woman is afraid the woman will tell his children he is a bad person or that he doesn't love them.

They assume blame: men abused believe it's their fault or feel they deserve the treatment they receive.

Dependency or fear of Independence: the man is mentally, emotionally or financially dependent on the abusive woman. The idea of leaving the relationship creates significant feelings of depression or anxiety. They are addicted to each other.

If you find yourself reading about yourself in this article, please seek counseling because frankly you need it. The relationship you are in is not healthy.