Michael Jackson: Why I No Longer Believe He Molested Children
I used to believe that Michael was guilty of sexually abusing children. As a person who was sexually abused as a child myself, I was more than a little upset to think he would do these things. I didn't want to believe it about someone who I had admired for most of my life and someone whose music I thoroughly enjoyed.
The thing is, it was so easy to believe. Michael was never "normal". He was always a little strange, very soft-spoken and his sexuality was never determined. That, and the fact that he seemed to prefer being around children to anyone else practically screamed "child molester".
But since his untimely death , I've been doing a lot of reading about his life. I've also been looking at past interviews with Michael. Taking so much in about his life in such a short period of time has made me see Michael Jackson differently.
I no longer believe he was guilty of abusing children. Not only do I believe he was innocent of abusing children, I don't believe he had it in him to even contemplate abusing a child. What, you may ask, made me change my mind. The answer is simple. Michael Jackson WAS a child. He was a child in his heart...a child in his soul...and if he had only had the power, he would have transformed himself into a child in body as well.
I remember something well from the therapy I had in dealing with my own childhood sexual abuse. My therapist told me that many times a person's emotional development will stop at the point that abuse begins. It happened to me. I believe this also happened to Michael Jackson.
He was a child at age 50 because he never got to be a child when he was growing up. He was not allowed to play because his father forced him to practice, practice and perform. When he failed, he got whipped. His entire childhood was about being the best singer, the best dancer...working, working, working.
Is it really so strange that Michael Jackson would want to be able to finally be a child? Is it really so strange that he had an amusement park for a home? Neverland was a place where he could not only make children happy. It was a place where HE could be a child...a place where HE could be happy.
Michael Jackson has been talked of harshly for talking so casually about sharing his bed with children. Not only did he admit to doing it, he talked about what a beautiful and loving thing it is to share one's bed with a child. To most of us, our first reaction was shock. We felt appalled and sickened. Something about it just didn't seem quite right.
The thing is...we are thinking of it in a totally different context. We are thinking of the bed as a place to have sex. We are thinking of pedophiles who long to sexually molest children. We just aren't used to seeing a good guy admitting to sharing a bed with a child. Even if most good guys did share their bed with a child, they probably would never admit it for their minds are over sensitized to how it might look to the general public.
I believe that Michael Jackson's mind was so innocent in this regard, he never gave a thought as to how it might sound to the general public. I believe Michael wanted to be a child again and he was able to do that by bringing children to Neverland Ranch. They were the friends he never had. I also believe that Michael had a genuine love and affection for children and such a profound sadness over the loss of his own childhood that he wanted to make sure other children did not suffer the same.
The world mourns Michael Jackson. For those who still struggle with questions as to whether he was a child molester, I would ask you to study his life. Try and see the world as he did. Perhaps then, you will see him in a different light.
Published by Cheryl Williams
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22 Comments
Post a Commentthank you so much for your article. i agree with you, we tend to believe right away what the media tells us. Michael deserves a benefit of a doubt for those who doesn't believe him to be innocent. he has given so much of himself. thank you once again.
I completely agree, I used to believe the charges against Michael, because like it was simply stated, it indeed was the easiest thing to believe. After taking the ignorant easy route of blame, I have finally (and much to my disgrace, too belated) looked for myself and see a beautiful, talented, innocent human abused by the world. I don't know how he endured all this sadness and humilitation, for the time that he did, and I feel ashamed and near hate for all the people that loved him and betrayed him at the same time. We should be responsible for our own beliefs and choices, and not let others tell us what to believe. Where is the one strong piece of evidence proving otherwise? His eccentricities is a part of his genius, the way he is, his quest for perfection, it is why he could manifest his amazing talent. Accept it, treasure it, WHO CARES if someone is different. Do we all want to be the same all the time?? He lives and will always be INNOCENT, perfect, loving human, our worl
am glad to know that there are people out there who don't believe that Michael molested children,I actually never believed it either.Somehow without any prove i just believed he was innocent.Love you Michael!May his soul rest in peace.
Your article is WONDERFUL! Thank you for being positive. Why didn't the media make a huge "to-do" over that Chandler boy RECANTING the allegations and his father subsequently commiting suicide?! The MEDIA definitely WANTS to think nasty and defame his legacy. What an awful shame that is!
OMG.... thanks for this article... i have been defending michael from day 1... i argued this many times with friends, saying the exact things that's in this article, he never grew up, people can see this, he always had a good heart, and people will always try to bring down a good man, rich or poor, famous or not, wicked people can't ever see a good man prosper. R.I.P Michael, u are the best!!!!!
I...... agree....... completely......
thank you for sharing this.
it is just SO sad that so many people continue with the ignorance and in their own minds view the ones who actually took the time to study MJ as "ignorant" or naive.
what the WORLD really will never be able to realize is that, speaking of that word naive, ..being childlike.. innocent.. NOT ASSUMING EVERYONE HAS NASTY MOTIVES ... is not bad. no one can trust anyone anymore.
RIP Michael Jackson
It's a valid question. As of today 06/12/09 Jordan Chandler has not made a statement regarding the alleged events of 1993. For a full and detailed overview of the allegations against Michael Jackson please go to this link: http://charlesthomsonjournalist.blogspot.com/2009/11/charles-thomson-award-winning-writer.html Michael Jackson is survived by three young children who will one day be presented with the horrific realities of the circumstances surrounding their father's death. It is for them that the truth surrounding the alleged events of 1993 must be revealed - once and for all
Thank you for this article, I wish others would take the time to do the research. He was a gentle man who didn't deserve to be treated the way he was.
THANKS SO MUCH. MY HEART HAS BEEN BROKEN SINCE HE DIED AND ALL U READ IS ALL THE MOLESTING CRAP. I HOPE YOU COULD WRITE THIS FOR ONE OF THE BIG NEWSPAPERS OR TV SHOWS. THIS REALLY NEED TO BE UT OUT WHERE MORE PEOPLE CAN SEE THIS. AGAIN, THANKS.
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inal court, but they didn't know what they were doing, and just wanted money, not justice.
i feel like i know michael now, even though i obviously didn't...but anyone who takes the time to learn about his heart and his kind soul will find it absurd that he would be accused to abusing the ones he fought so hard to help. he was one of the most giving and generous persons this world will ever see. it is absolutely heartbreaking that this happened to him, and has continued to follow his reputation all of these years. but i am confident that he will eventually be fully vindicated of all the rumors and charges. the truth will come out one day, as God has known it this whole time!
rest in true peace, michael.