Mini Separations; Periodic Breaks Can Get You Through the Tough Times

Every marriage goes through rough patches from time to time. Too often, couples simply throw in the towel rather than ride out those rough patches. This, however, is not always necessary. Giving up too easily on a marriage is not what commitment is all about. Perhaps what couples need to do during these difficult times is to have a mini separation.

What exactly is a mini separation? A mini separation is simply taking a break from each other. It can be for a day, or it can be for a week. This allows each person the opportunity to cool down, do some thinking, and re-evaluate the relationship. It is not done in anger with slamming doors and calling names. It is simply looking at your partner and saying, "I really need some space right now...some time away from you in order to think clearly."

Where does one go during a mini-separation? It doesn't really matter as long as you go somewhere where you can think and rejuvenate. You could stay with a friend or family member. You could get a hotel room. Just make sure that if you visit someone else, you do not get caught up in the midst of their drama and forget to deal with your own.

Mini separations have several benefits:

-They give you time to clear your head.
-They give you a moment of peace and self-reflection.
-They give you the opportunity to see where you were wrong.
-Being away from your partner can often lead to a new appreciation for your partner.
-You can come back together feeling renewed and positive about resolving your issues.
-You are able to step out of the anger and into a sense of calm. Therefore you do not say things to your loved one that you will later regret.

Becky and Dave swear that mini separations are the reason they are still married after 25 years. When one of both get so angry they are tempted to leave for good, they simply part for a few days. When they come back together, they are able to see the situation in a new light and come to a faster resolution. Many times, they even laugh about what led to the argument to begin with.

If you find yourself wanting to end your marriage at times, try doing a mini separation. You won't regret it, because it will help you see your marriage in a new way.