Mismatch in the Sack: Couples with Opposite Sexual Appetites

Oh my goodness here we go! Couples these days never seem to ask the appropriate relationship questions these days. I mean sex, should not be the foundation of a relationship, but you must admit---it's in the cement! Many relationships and even marriages fail because couples do not adequately communicate about sexual desires, likes and dislikes. think about this. What was the first thing that attracted you to your mate. Okay, don't tell me the way she articulated herself while giving a speech either! How about the way her body swayed, and the way she held onto the long pointer, while she connected her honey brown eyes with your baby blues, throughout her presentation. It was some form of sex appeal!!!!! Therefore, why shy around the fact that there was a strong attraction (not hypnotic, or tequila) that bonded the two of you like tape to gift wrapping paper.

Hopefully the guide I am about to share with you will give you the insight you need to build a trusting, open and relaxed relationship. Once all the key parts of a relationship have been discussed, then either the relationship can proceed, or it can end right there on the spot.

1) Be upfront and honest. Great relationships lasts because honesty existed from the start! Don't try to be cute and say what you think they want you to say. Be real in what type of relationship you want to have. Explain what you are looking for and be sincere. It's great to find out about their family, their jobs, even past dating habits, (notice I said dating habits, not relationships) but ask the real questions that will keep the relationship afloat. What are the questions you ask? Keep on reading.

2) Ask the right questions. What do you talk about on the first date? When do you sense or really start to feel if the person is right or wrong for you? Well I promise, ask the questions that matter to you and your HEALTH the most!

A) When was your last HIV test? How often do you get tested? If they brush this off and laugh---keep it moving! Someone who laughs at this very serious and very impactive health topic, is not worth your life, nor time! If they don't quickly respond or even offer proof that they are clean---KEEP IT MOVING!

B) Are they married or bi-sexual/gay? This topic has destroyed many relationships. I know we all have morals ans expectations, so don't ever become a part of the problem. IF married, walk away! Let someone else be apart of that life damaging event. If they are gay/bi-sexual you must decide if you want to deal with that type of dangerous behavior.

C) What have their past dating habits been like? Normally when people talk about past relationships they tell on themselves or their ex. If they talk about their ex more that they talk about themselves, then tale caution and remember---there are two sides to every story! If they admit to cheating---watch out. Try to find out why they cheated. This can help you see what level (mentally) they are on.

D) What are their sexual desires, appetites and fantasies! Please don't try to act like you wear two right shoes all the time either! Don't try to act like a good girl, when you know all the letters in your middle name spell out SUPER FREAK! By doing this you will find out if the person has a mild, medium, or heavy sex drive. Although I will state, if they constantly want sex, need constant stimulation on their genital areas, or they display very neurotic behavior----they may have a hyper-active sexual disorder. Learn to pay attention for the symptoms and behaviors.

3) Take your time. Do what makes you feel comfortable. Never rush into something just for the response or just for the heck of it, factors. Your mental and physical health ride on every relationship you involve yourself in.

4) Look for drama filled issues. Ask the most important questions that show immediate drama. Like what you ask? How many baby mommas/daddies are involved? Do they owe child support? If so, why are they behind? How much time do they spend with their children?

5) Religion! Do they have a religion or church they belong to? Many couples fight over if they are from the same religious culture. Talk about this off top! You don't want to have a relationship that is unequally yoked.

I promise that if you use this guide, you will be able to start your new relationship in the right direction.