Moms, Children and Parenting Styles

There are all different kinds of Moms out there. All Moms have good intentions but not all know exactly what they are doing. Parenting is never an exact science and all children respond differently to parenting approaches.

When first entering the world of Moms, I was a bit lost and confused. Other Moms gave me plenty of advice on parenting. Some parenting advice received from other Moms was great and some was terrible. Through trial, error and a lot of good intention, I became a pretty decent Mom.

I never really related to the authoritative type Moms. That my way or the highway thing seemed so undemocratic and inconsiderate. I just couldn't wrap my head around all that dictatorship parenting. Moms like this were unapproachable as far as I was concerned.

I remember listening to these Moms and thinking, wow, they even dictate the thoughts of their children. I have actually heard these authoritative Moms tell their children, "No, you are not thirsty, now go back to your work.". What? How did she know her child was not thirsty? Now I'm not one to cater to a child's every need but this is ridiculous.

On the other end of the spectrum are the permissive Moms. These parenting geniuses tend to let their kids run wild. Parenting does not mean letting kids get away with everything in the name of individual freedoms. Sure, Moms should respect their children's needs and wishes. However when those needs and wishes cause harm to others, a line should be drawn.

Permissive Moms often fall into the trap of being a friend to their children. When parenting, Moms should always remain friendly and approachable to their children. Parenting also has to involve a little discipline. Moms need to make it clear that the final decision is in their hands as the older, more responsible adult.

Children raised by permissive Moms and those who want to be their friend, seldom learn anything about boundaries. Parenting is about teaching children the ways of the world. When it's time to be an adult, your children should have learned everything they need to deal with the society they live in. This is our job as Moms. Teach the child to become an adult.

Working Moms must find time in their day to work on proper parenting. It's easy to let things slide at the end of a long, hard day at work. One parenting task that is difficult for working Moms is providing proper nutrition for their children. A good way to conquer this is by cooking ahead and freezing.

Working Moms should be sure to touch base with children every day. Parenting involves being attentive to a child's needs and concerns, no matter how tired Moms are. It's a challenge to balance parenting and work but the effort is well worth it. It's also important for working Moms to be sure home time is uninterrupted by work. Your children get a couple hours at the end of the work day. Don't take this away from them too.

Source :

personal experience