Mother Vs. Mom - What Type Are You?

The Role of the Woman in the Relationship and in today's society has changed since the days of our Great Grand Mothers. Woman used to devote their entire lives to house and hearth. Now after the big "evolution" of the female and their "freedom" to be the head of the household and "equal" rights, we no longer are privileged enough to be what we were born to be.
More often then not, women are now choosing careers over family. Women abandon their Children as often as Men used to. Abortions are no longer a last result but a new birth control method. Grandparents raise their Grandchildren, because the woman can not be bothered to be around to do her job.
Single Parent families are more and more a normal occurrence and the line between Mother and Father has become blurred. We have become so modern, that now are now struggling to perform the simplest and most important functions of our lives to be a Mommy to our young.

If you are one of those women that have decided to give birth to the baby inside of you and even gone further to have decided to actually take on your own responsibilities of raising said baby, the question arises what type of Mothering Woman are you?

Just call me Mother!

She has given birth to this adorable Baby that everyone just loves. She works hard at the office so she can afford the best of everything for her child. Perhaps, she is one of the million of Women that are raising their children by them-selves either because the father was never in the picture, has left her or she just couldn't be bothered with him either.
She has a career she follows and friends she has to entertain. She makes certain that her child has only the best cloth, the best education, the newest toys, but she is just too busy to spend any time with her baby. The folks at the childcare center are doing a good job however; the child is in the best hands. The Babysitter is divine and such a treasure. She has too much on her mind; she has the weight of the world on her shoulders. She has better things to do then to listen to the petty little things in her child's life. You can not fault her, she is a horribly busy woman and it isn't easy being mother and father.

She is the married woman that resents being stuck at home. She did not count on this much work and her husband no longer desires her. The child has ruined her figure. She is taking care of the brad, but does it never stop demanding and asking for things? She tries her best, put on her bravest face. She helps with the homework, takes care of the house, pays the bills and makes sure her kids have the best meals on the table. But bedtime stories, who has time for those. Sit down and watch TV. She dreams of the times her Child is grown up and out of the house. She can not wait.

She is the stressed out woman that has paid her dues. Life is just too unfair and who cares if she drinks a couple of drinks every day. She is feeding her kids. She is cleaning up when she finds the energy. At least she is not giving her kids away or walking off from them. She is doing her job. She can not be bothered with little things. She washes the cloth and put the kid to bed. Of course she goes to the Parent teacher meetings, what after all would the social worker say if she wouldn't? What does anyone else know anyway about her life and parenting?

She is the social butterfly, loved by all and just look how beautiful and well behaved her child is. She is the perfect little doll. Nobody is so perfect. She is just like her mother. She works hard for her family, gives parties, and buys only the best. She gives all her money, but she is just too exhausted to play with her kids. Let Dad take care of that or grandma.

Either one of these women types are there for their children. They meet their obligations to the point of perfection. They feed and clothe their kids and they would wish no harm to them. Sure they love their kids; they did give birth to them and raise them. What more could anyone ask for. But she is a woman and has needs of her own. She must come first. If she doesn't take care of her-self who else will?

Working or stay at home: "She is my Mom!"
The best of all types, the arch-typical Mom can be found very seldom today, but if you are lucky enough to come into her home you see a clean house, smell cookies and food, there are books to be read and toys on the floor. You will find her with her baby on her lap or on the ground by her feet playing. She reads stories to them, has time to listen to their day. She gives advice, has time for hugs and even demands them. She is there for all their little and big hurts. She loves her kids and their needs come before her own. If it comes down to who gets that new pair of shoes, it is often her family before her-self. She worries, she preaches, she teaches, she nags and she is always there for her children.

She works when the kids are in school or a sleep. She would rather be at home, but she knows she has to help or pay the bills. She gets off work and rushes home to her family. She makes sure that her kids have what they need. She may be tired, but she is never too tired to spend time with her little ones. She calls in and checks on them. She is never far away. Her kids know that if they need her, she will be there no matter what it takes to get there. She is not afraid to discipline her children. She knows when to be harsh and when to sooth. She makes many mistakes and she may never be able to give them everything she wants but they are rich in her love and care.

She works hard and many long hours, but when she gets home she wants nothing more then to be with her children. She reads them stories when she finds a moment. She goes out of her way to make time to be with them. She works her schedule around them and they know that she will drop whatever she is doing to help them in an emergency. She is a no-nonsense woman who raises her children to be responsible adults. She is loved and feared in equal parts and she takes her responsibility as mom very serious. She counts her children as one of her greatest treasures and once she has raised her kids she sees that as one of her greatest accomplishments. She never stops worrying about them even when they are grown up. She loves them with all her might. She hasn't stopped being a woman, but she is a mother first until they are old enough to be on their own.

Having had a Baby doesn't make you either a woman nor does it make you a Mom. Feeding your child and clothing it only to have it out of your way is more the sign of a Mother then a Mom.
In a time when being a Mom doesn't seem to be enough for many Women anymore, I want to remind you of what a privilege it really is to hold a life in your hands. I want to remind you that a Mom is Goddess to her child. You, the one who has given life to your Baby, are the most important living Adult in your Childs life. Loosing or having to live without a Dad is horrible and devastating, but living without the love and care of a real Mom is nothing short of destructive. We all need our Mom and no matter how old we are we yearn for the loving approval of the woman that has carried us under her heart.

We as woman are given a wonderful gift; don't throw it way because of thoughtlessness or selfishness. Be certain you are given it your all.