Mother's Day Without Mother

Celebrated on the second Sunday in May, Mother's Day is a day to honor mothers for all that they do. For those whose mothers are no longer living, however, Mother's Day can be a bittersweet holiday. This year for Mother's Day, why not try doing something in memory of your mother.

Fix your mother's favorite meal or a meal that was a favorite of yours that she always made and donate it to your local homeless shelter or food kitchen. For many of our nation's homeless, it may the only real meal they have for the day. If your cooking skills lean towards TV dinners, why not donate flowers and ask the workers to pass them out to the mothers that come through. You can also donate craft supplies so children can make cards for their mothers. When every cent is spent on survival, their children may not be able to do anything to make Mother's Day special for them.

One of the things I always found heart-breaking when I worked in nursing homes and assisted living facilities is that there are some residents who spend their holidays alone. Their families may be too busy or live too far away to visit or they may have never had children themselves. Give your local nursing home a call and ask them if they know a female resident that might need a pick-me-up on Mother's Day. Even if you can't afford a gift, something as simple as a card and having someone come visit them can make their day.

If you know a mother with young children that is struggling, why not do something nice for her? A gift certificate to a spa with an offer for babysitting can help her feel appreciated, even if her children are too young to show it themselves. If your budget can afford it, pay for a day of maid service for her so she can spend time with her children rather than worrying about the house. If your budget is tight, grab some paper, crayons and whatever craft supplies you might have on hand, and help her children make her a card. Homemade cards made by a child's hand is something a mother will treasure forever.

Children need good role models in their lives, but many don't have one. In memory of all the things your mother taught you, sign up to be a big brother or big sister. Big Brothers Big Sisters is an organization that matches adult volunteers with children in need of mentoring. There is no cost, just an investment of your time. It doesn't take much to make a difference in a child's life. For more information, contact Big Brothers Big Sisters by visiting their website at www.bbbs.org or giving them a call at (215) 567-7000.

Your family may be struggling with Mother's Day too. Get together with your siblings and share memories of your mother. Tell your children stories about her and teach them her favorite song. Even though your mother is no longer with you, her memory will live on.