My Boyfriend Says He Needs Space - What Can I Do?

When in a dating relationship with a man, a common problem that comes up from time to time is that your boyfriend will ask for space. This can sometimes happen out of the blue and make you feel hurt, distant and insecure because, to you, things might have been going well in the relationship. He is now distant and you miss him. Many women make the mistake of doing the wrong things during this time, which pushes him away even further. There are things you can do that will help you and your relationship in this situation.

Don't blame yourself. Don't go over every conversation or movement you did, thinking you messed something up. Many times, this space might have to do with something your boyfriend is dealing with in his life. He might not be comfortable to open up about it. He might be taking time to go fix all his problems so he can then focus on you again. He could be trying to protect you from something rather than hurt you. While it's hard to understand, don't make it about you.

Try to be patient. You probably miss him and want to call him, see him and talk to him right now. If you constantly bother him, he will pull away even more and try to avoid you. While this isn't fair and feels awful, do what you can to not do this. Check up on him every once in awhile, letting him know you are there when he wants to talk, but don't be a bother.

Get more busy. Plan activities and fill up your schedule. If you aren't busy, you will just worry and let the problem eat away at you. The more it bothers you, the more likely you are to blow up or lose control and cause problems in your relationship.