My Complicated Life Story

Here is the story of my complicated life. Feel free to ask questions after I am done.

Back in April of 2006 I had to take my son Jessie to the doctors as he wasnt feel well and not sleeping well. We found out that he had blood on the brain due to some brain trauma to believed shaken baby syndrome. Since it was head trauma the cops and dhs child welfare got involved. Later my husband was arrested and is currently in jail waiting for trial and has been charged with assult 1 and criminal mistreatment 1. We will find out in June if he is going to be convicted or not. Recently found out that one of our old neighbors saw our old babysitter shake my son. Right now the only evidence the DA has on my husband is the testimony of my 2nd cousin who is 12 yrs old. She said that she saw my husband shake our son then hand him to me then walked into another room. She said she could not see me all that well from where she was sitting. She also said that she learned about shaken baby syndrome from watching Law and Order on TV. The old babysitter failed a lie detector and stress test then left the state with her family. She was into the drugs and drinking. So far the private investigator on the case cant find the old babysitter or the neighbor who saw the babysitter shake our son. She moved and didnt leave a forwarding address and has been in and out of drug houses. We have this expert doctor coming from Minnesota to testify for my husband, he is very good and has several cases on shaken baby syndrome.

I was then had to quit my job in Milwaukie and move in with my mom court ordered. Also I had to file for separation from my husband so I can file for full custody of our son. The courts wants me to prove to them that I can protect my son.

Yes it is a terrible place to be in. Yes I know the charges against my husband is not true, I know he did not do this to our son. We were given so many different timelines when the incident occured and one of them was in the care of the babysitter. The DA who was on my case because it was in juvenile court because of Jessie, told me to file for full custody of Jessie and the only way to do that was either divorce or separation so I did the separation. Jessie is doing great. We wont know if there is going to be any damage or not it is a wait and see game. Some of his motor skills is slow but Jessie was born 5 weeks early too. So it could be because of being premature or the trauma or both. The doctors dont know for sure. He had a cat scan done in January and it came back negative no more bleeding and it looks real good but dont know about any brain damage.

I am not allowed to work so I stay home with Jessie. He has physical therapy for his motor skills and now he is going to get some therapy for eating as he has problems eating certain foods. He doesnt use his tongue or swallow like he should. Certain foods he gags and then throws up. So he is getting the help he needs and they feel it is better that I am with him instead of him being in day care where he wont get the attention he gets. I love being home with him. But I miss having friends. I am have been chatting with a lot of moms who I hope to meet one day and hopefully become really good friends with.

I have lost my best friend over this whole ordeal too. She was like the spy for the cops, she listened to my conversations as we used to live next door to each other. I stopped telling her everything before I had to move because I knew she was after to get me or my husband I just could tell. She was my maid of honor at my wedding, it would be 4 years in July. There is so much I miss since this whole thing has been going on for almost 1 year now.I believe it was the babysitter as I know that she under feed Jessie everytime that she feed him.
We used the babysitter for 1 month, we pulled Jessie out of her care after we found out that she was into drugs and drinking, we didnt want Jessie to be around that stuff at all. She is in her early 20's, she was very convenient since we lived in the same apartment building and she was cheaper than other babysitters around us. At first I didnt know what to believe who could have done this to Jessie I even had doubts about my husband for the longest time. But lately I have been hearing a lot of bad things about the babysitter it just makes me think more about her and how she could have done this. Jessie cried a lot while in her care so she could have done this while he was crying and she couldnt get him to calm down.

Just recently I have found out from an expert doctor that Jessie's injuries could have happened at birth and not having enough iron in his sytem didnt help either. Any kind of bump to the head could cause the injury to bleed more but no signs of a new injury.

I got some disturbing news today from my case worker. I found out today about what happened to Haley in Mike's care. I know that she was a shaken baby, had some broken bones and torn ritna and she is blind in one eye. And all of that happened in Mike's care. Also I found out about all of Mike's assult charges in both Texas and Washington. Because of all of this I am going to have to chose between Jessie and Mike. My case worker told me that Mike should not be around any kids anymore because of the injuries to both Haley and now Jessie. If Mike is found guilty and during sentence the stuff from Texas will be brought up and that could lead to more time in prison. If Mike is found innocent he will not be able to see Jessie for a long time I am not sure on the time line but he wont be able to see him at all. He will not be able to come to my mom's house either. I found out the truth on how one of his ex in Washington got the broken arm. Right now I am very hurt by all the lies that I have been told by Mike. It would do Mike good if he would owe up to everything he did to all of this stuff. I cant write or tell Mike on the phone about this but my case worker gets a copy of every letter that I write to Mike and every letter that he writes to me and she gets a copy of every conversation that Mike and I have. Oh another thing if Mike gets out he is not allowed to see Jessie until my case worker says so, I was told that someone will be watching me the minute I leave the courthouse and if found out that Mike sees Jessie at all, Jessie will be taken away from me and go to foster home. I am not going to do anything to lose Jessie.