Need a Marriage Family Counselor for a Marital Problem?

If you are having problems in your marriage and you need a marriage family counselor you need to read this first. The first question you need to ask yourself is if you really need a marriage counselor at this stage of whatever problems you might be having.

Have you already explored all the avenues of making things work out in your marriage? Will getting a marriage family counselor help the situation at this point?

What I have discovered is that many people rush and seek out a marriage family counselor even without trying out some basic things to improve the relationship with their spouse.

I don't know what your situation is, but am going to give you details of how a problem of Infidelity almost taking place in a relationship was discovered and solved without having to get the services of a marriage family counselor.

"I never knew this would make me cry..."

Here I was with tears in my. No matter how hard I tried to keep the tears away, the tears kept coming down. They say a man is not supposed to cry, but I just couldn't help it. It all happened on a beautiful Tuesday morning, 1st August 2006. I was standing by my breakfast board reading a letter I just received from my cousin, Sandra. Her mail brought the tears to my eyes. I will let you know a bit of the content of the letter which really touched my heart.

As a writer and researcher, I'm used to receiving touching mails from people about how my writing has helped perk up their lives, but this letter I just received from my cousin in fact hit home and got me all emotional. It brought out my tears because my cousin Sandra is very close to me but she is not the kind of person one would imagine would write such a personal and revealing letter to me.

With her consent I will make known to you some of the letter's content written in her own words:

"Tony (her husband) stunned me after dinner with a beautiful gift of Jewelry. He looked so sweet when he told me that I had unknowingly saved him from making a major mistake which could have ruined our marriage. His words dazed me! Immediately several questions started going through my mind. What did I do? What did I avert? How did I prevent it? I listened carefully while he continued talking".

"Sweetheart, I noticed that for sometime now, you've been sending me text messages from time to time, telling me about how much you love and respect me as a hardworking and caring husband and father to our kids. You also asked me a short while back, if there was anything you do that makes me extra happy. I told you some things and I immediately noticed that you start doing more of such things. You also got me some surprise gifts that has greatly enhanced my work.

What you never knew was that in spite of our happy marriage, I almost made a serious mistake some time back. I met this lady at work several weeks back who has been a major conversational partner with me for sometime now. Unknowingly and accidentally, we have been getting very close and I suddenly started looking for faults in our relationship and family life. But, suddenly you started doing all these things I mentioned earlier and then it suddenly hit me that its you I truly still loved and cherished, not the new woman.

I quickly told her off and kept away from her. My continuously relating with her would have ultimately lead to me cheating on you, but the things you started doing made me retrace my steps and helped me understand that my relationship with this "other woman" wasn't healthy."

These were the things my Tony told me. Thanks for showing me how to "keep my man away from other women" through your writings. You saved my family a lot of pain and heartbreak. Guess you didn't know I read your e-book. Stay in touch. You are welcome to visit us soon. We all miss you. Sincerely, your cousin, Sandra."

I hope you now understand why I was so emotional about my cousin's letter. If my writing is changing and improving lives this way, then its all been worth it. The point I also want to make here is that there are lots of things you can do to keep you man away from other women and to keep other women away from your man. In my cousin's letter to me above, she mentioned some things she did to inadvertently save her relationship from potential danger.

Once again the following are some of the things she did:

* She sent him touching text messages expressing her love and praising him for his faithfulness and caring for his family.

* She sent him unplanned gifts that were useful to his work.

* She asked him to tell her about the things he loves her doing. And then she did more of it.

These are just a few of the things you can do to help bulletproof your relationship against infidelity. I felt I should write this article to help show you how some simple but effective tips can help keep the other woman away from your man. You deserve a good and secure marriage free from the fear of infidelity.

To my cousin Sandra, I would just like to say; "Am glad I was able to put off infidelity in your marriage through my writings. Wishing you and your family happiness as you continue following the rest of my advice. Miss you guys too. I look forward to seeing you soon"

From the above message, you can see that this couple would have needed a marriage family counselor, but a preventive measure was taken. So, think carefully before you take the step. Have you really tried other ways of making your marriage work? Wishing you well in your marriage.

In conclusion, realize that getting a marriage family counselor is a good step in trying to solve marital problems, but you need to first see if you have exhausted other avenues of getting your marriage to work. There are other things you need to learn about, through reading helpful marriage guidance and relationship improvement literature before taking the step to enlist a marriage family counselor.